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this post was submitted on 12 Jun 2023
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Define "myself" lol, which mask do they want
Proceeds to narrate my life from the beginning
Like most people, I was born at a really young age...
Seriously, what are you supposed to say?
"My name is Aaron and I like trains"
Well, then, Iβm truly beyond saving because I donβt even like trains. π«
I like Turtles
I'm not autistic and I don't know either. So I became a dad now I can literally talk shit (he has diarrhea π±) for hours on end.
Did you become a dad so you had more talking points? /s
You joke but it did make my social life a lot easier. You keep meeting other parents (at doctors, community organized activities, for playdates and so on) and instantly have something to talk about. Oh mine has the shits, mine won't latch, ours started rolling on his belly last week.
Then you start gifting and receiving gifts because yours grew out of his sleeping bag or the inlaws gave something absurd for your situation but someone else might find it useful and you develop actual adult friendships.
I had the exact same experience with becoming a parent! It's a super easy thing that almost anyone can talk about without being too personal, touchy or deep
Maybe it's easier for you to tell what you do instead of what you are (or like, or think, or feel ...)?
Yes, good point, but I still wish people asked less ambiguous and vague questions. I don't know, my mind just goes blank for a moment there.
I know this. I'd be like, "oh shit a smalltalker ..."
What works for me is to start talking about what hapened to me. Similar to what @[email protected] suggests in this thread. That also gives the other an immediate choice if they want to engage so deeply with you. But you might also expose yourself too much.
personality has stopped responding
I deadass have a list on my notes app to remember what my hobbies and likes are π
omg, this is a good idea! I have all sorts of lists on my Keep notes, ranging from to-do lists, groceries, to personal values. Making one on hobbies and likes for these types of situations is a great idea. Thanks!
I blank so hard at these kind of questions. Then I panic about how blank I must look so then I extra canβt βmake up what a normie might sayβ the damn vicious circle. I read something this was called hmmmβ¦. Had to google it, selective mutism. Was quite interesting to think back through times this happened to me, but interestingly am only now realizing how much it was in response to vague open ended prompts
This reminds me of when I got my second career/office job, people would ask "where are you coming from?" and it was soo long before I realized they meant "what was your previous job?" not "where were you born (and why don't you live there), and what part of town do you live in?"
In saying that though, I'm not actually confident in either interpretation being correct, because sometimes they'd just ask where I was from (omitting "coming")
It can be even more confusing if you're visibly or otherwise noticeably not White/Anglo, so then you're wondering if they're asking about your racial or ethnic ancestry.
That and writing descriptions on websites
I don't have a bio on my website at all, its just a list of posts I've written
I put everything into ChatGPT now to make words sound human.
The inverse is when I write accessibility descriptions. Those get really detailed
Every dating profile bio becomes an existential threat
[kernel panic] ... ... [reboot]
"Well, I-"
o O (Wait, this is a job interview...)
[delete delete delete]
o O (Hold on, is this what they're ACTUALLY asking for...?)
o O (OK, I have a sales-y script I can recite, but this isn't a sales position...I don't know if the "authentic me" answer I have would be any better...)
[bombs interview anyway]
Can see my reflection making that exact face. As I come to terms with the reality that I can't just lurk if I want this community to succeed here. And after 20 minutes this is all my brain would produce...
as soon as anyone asks me anything about myself I immediately forget literally everything and become dumber than a goldfish
When people ask me things like "What's your favorite song" I'm like "uhhhhhh idk I don't remember any songs" every time
It's especially hard for me since my favorite anything changes. I don't like being restrained to one favorite thing all the time. It really depends on the situation. For example, with music, it depends on my current situation and emotional disposition. Sometimes I really like a super sad song, and sometimes I like an exciting energetic song. Having long-term favorites is something I don't understand.
I know someone with some sort of a business degree and they say this is a really stupid job interview question.
Btw. i like it when these ~~memes~~ cartoons make people respond. Else i'm quite averse. Up to the point that i'm ignore-button triggered. ...
... Uh, my goodness now that i know that the word "meme" has been coined by Richard Dawkins, of all people ... i'm compelled to dislike it more than ever. :-)
https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Meme
What's your issue with Dawkins, out of curiosity?
Radical materialism, simply wrong. Following his ideas would be completely neglecting the experience of my Self. I have a master's in biology as well, and i understand that way of thinking. Darwinian evolution nothing wrong with that, but it clearly doesn't stop on the material level. I have simply progressed beyond that. I opened up a little about my path in my post yesterday.
"I forgot I am a human" five hours later "...and that's how ai will lead the proletariat in a revelation"
Iβm X and Iβm Y years old.
awkward silence during which people expect me to elaborate further
I'm X because that's what my parents named me. I'm Y years old because I was born that long ago.
I'm a simple man...
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