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[–] [email protected] 2 points 5 hours ago
[–] [email protected] 24 points 1 day ago

What the hell did I miss this time?

[–] [email protected] 18 points 1 day ago (2 children)

Can someone recommend me a new instance and how to move my account?

[–] [email protected] 9 points 23 hours ago* (last edited 18 hours ago) (1 children)

Lemmy.cafe, Lemm.ee, Sopuli.xyz, Programming.dev, Mander.xyz and Feddit.uk are all massive upgrades!

You can import your information using the settings option to your new instance.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 9 hours ago (1 children)

Dbzer0 is cool, too, AFAIK

[–] [email protected] 0 points 9 hours ago

This is true!

[–] [email protected] 15 points 1 day ago

You can't move your account but you can have multiple acounts with the same name if they're not on the same instance. In the Voyager app you can stay logged into more than one at the same time. Also you can check out most instances without creating an account so I'd suggest taking a look yourself to see what you like. You can find a list with filter options here.

[–] [email protected] 23 points 1 day ago (8 children)

The left is getting killed on the trans sports issue (which I believe is a completely manufactured issue) because we haven't talked about it enough to iron out a reasonable position.

The general pop is not accepting of trans people in professional sports. I don't think that will change anytime soon but trans people playing school sports is far more accepted and I think its a much more convincing to fight on the issue of trans people participating in school sports for fun and social reasons. It draws away from the shit narrative that trans people are trying to compete at the highest level and I don't think anyone can reasonably argue against it since casual sport commonly mixes gender.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 5 hours ago

Trigger Warning: Get a pack of Kleenex and load your favorite Daily Wire playlists to have handy, because this is not going to be a light read for a self-proclaimed intelligent centrist.

The left is getting killed on the trans sports issue

Do you have any data backing this? And what analysis goes with the data?

Don't let me be misunderstood: Rights are not defined by majorities, otherwise you could have a white majority voting on the humanity of black people, and wolves voting on the right of sheep not to be eaten.

On the other hand, the public's views are heavily conditioned by misanthropic, anti-democratic propaganda, that shifts the window of acceptable discourse, and excludes people from a set of fundamental freedoms that cisgender people take for granted. As a consequence, the ubiquitous genocidal discourse against trans lives, if left unchecked leads (and this is by now not a prediction but a historical fact) to erosion of rights of women, blacks, indigenous, disabled, and every other citizen. Because these freedoms are not "special" to trans people, but are mere extension of legal scholarship and the rule of law. The ongoing American fascism is not an overreach of "legitimate concerns" but it is profoundly, structurally embedded in challenging the legitimacy of trans people. This is why TERFism was initially deemed "unworthy of respect" by British courts: because it goes against TONS of legal precedent.

Long story short, in the times of "Der Stürmer" you could have said that the majority of German did not think Jews should be married to Germans. So what? So much for the argument that we should sacrifice human rights of ANY group because they are unpopular.

ALL protections exist so that UNPOPULAR groups enjoy the rights that the majorities take for granted. Outside that logic there is only fascism.

It is much like segregation (which, surprise, is coming back again) and apartheid: The Feelings of uneasy white people sharing bathrooms and sports with black people, are of no importance whatsoever, because, simply, segregation is dehumanizing and unjust.

By extension, what you suggest is morally corrupt and inhumane, and it is deeply fascist in its very conception.

Now, we are arriving at the data. Bear with me.

You people hand-wave a fucking lot when you suggest that trans rights are so unpopular that they have lost you elections, when there have been multiple arguments that Democrats barely touched on the topic, apart from being loosely against killing trans people in pogroms and LUKEWARM at that. So your argument amounts to little more than "Fascist discourse is more trendy so let's do that instead", which is not JUST the Ratchet effect: it is "being complicit to actual genocide".

So you HAND-WAVE about an IMAGINARY regular person (who is that fucking nazi?) to whom we must bow under all circumstances? Fuck that populist tactics, and fucking educate people.

But does this IMAGINARY nazi-enabling regular Joe even exist?

And what studies you cite for him not being able to revise being a shit person

Views differ even more widely along party lines. For example, eight-in-ten Democrats say they favor laws or policies that would protect trans individuals from discrimination, compared with 48% of Republicans. Conversely, by margins of about 40 percentage points or more, Republicans are more likely than Democrats to express support for laws or policies that would do each of the following: require trans athletes to compete on teams that match the sex they were assigned at birth (85% of Republicans vs. 37% of Democrats favor); make it illegal for health care professionals to provide someone younger than 18 with medical care for a gender transition (72% vs. 26%); make it illegal for public school districts to teach about gender identity in elementary schools (69% vs. 18%); require transgender individuals to use public bathrooms that match the sex they were assigned at birth (67% vs. 20%); and investigate parents for child abuse if they help someone younger than 18 get medical care for a gender transition (59% vs. 17%).

Which is from Pew which others like you like to point to as a general "trans rights unpopular with our voter base", but if you actually read you will see that you can even find a small percentage of Republicans that are not vehemently against trans rights. And let's not forget that the percentage of Democrats against trans rights would be very much different if Democrat's media outlets weren't fucking complicit in amplifying genocidal "gender critical" misanthropy, and there weren't a score of fucking "leftist" intellectuals adopting their talk points, when there was ZERO voice given to the marginalized trans scholarship. So, this consent you talk to is manufactured by complicit Democrats to start with.

You would not make this argument unless you wanted to appeal to the Republican voter base, but doing so only shows that it is voter trends that guide your politics and not principles, and in fact, you are willing to enable crimes against humanity to appeal to a fascist voter base. This is unscrupulous and misanthropic.

Instead of succumbing to extremely well-funded racist and nazi propaganda, a principled political advocate with such means and resources as the Democrats could help alleviate what is a systematic attack to decent society and inclusive democracy. Therefore, your advocacy ultimately paints the Democrats as a manufactured opposition, and essentially a fascist party, once it does not stand for human rights, as it never were.

Centrists should be actively considered agitator agents for fascism at this point. Like, have you clowns even considered that your voter base might want you to grow a fucking spine and stand up for human rights, with trans rights front and center? Because I only see your democratic voter base being alienated by your flirt with fascism.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 5 hours ago

Who gives a shit about what is happening in non-professional sports anyways? It's kids having fun. Puppies chasing a ball. It is the least important thing on the planet.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 9 hours ago* (last edited 9 hours ago) (1 children)

Jesus Christ, just let private sports organizations sort it out between themselves, their participants, and their audience. Why should this be the government's problem when everything's on fire and there's microplastics in our brains and lungs? I mean really, this isn't hard stuff. People are people, let them have their rights. If you don't want them to have their rights because you don't like one of several groups they're a part of (likely without any say in the matter)? You might be a shitbag.

You don't like that the NHL decides not to be trans inclusive (fuck idk, did they)? Write em a nastygram and pull your subscription. You don't like that they decided to be trans inclusive? Maybe stop being such a fucking piece of shit, but nobody's holding a gun to your head, unsubscribe and send them your tear-stained letter about how it ruined your life. This is a niche issue that people can work out between themselves without the stupid government inserting itself into the middle of things.

[–] [email protected] -2 points 7 hours ago (1 children)

Who are you arguing against? I'm pro trans. I'm not I'm favour of government deciding this. But the government has decided to take away this right and now that forces people to fight (rhetorically) to restore it. I'm only making the case on how I think this subject should be approached.

If you want to go and arguing trans people in pro sports again go ahead but the right loves that. Its the only position where they have an argument.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 3 hours ago

I'm saying that should be the position: "unlike the republicans, we want a government small enough that it isn't micromanaging how sports organizations run themselves. We believe that the organizations, their members, and their audience are competent adults who can work out their rules for themselves."

[–] [email protected] 3 points 9 hours ago* (last edited 9 hours ago) (1 children)

I think the issue is just a distraction to split people. It reminds me of that one episode from IASIP. It also reminds me of bikeshedding. Like how many people are even trans athletes who rank high enough for this to even matter? Like 1 or 2? It feels like a disproportionate amount of interest to discuss something so trivial.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 7 hours ago

Yes it was a distraction but its enshrined in law now. Its also still being used as a wedge issue. Yes there is almost no trans people competing at a high level but thay doesnt matter to most people. The right will blast the example over and over and over forcing people on the left to defend it. Its better to not defend it and to instead talk about participation in school sports (which is what the law actually impacts). I'm only suggesting engaging the topic became we need to convince people that repealing the law is a good thing and enshrining protections is even better.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 15 hours ago (1 children)

It's a non issue. Professional and high level competitive sports like international council and Olympics addressed this YEARS ago. With data and research to support their current positions and recommendedations.

[–] [email protected] -1 points 12 hours ago (1 children)

Its a non issue but its still something on peoples minds thanks to right wingers constantly bringing it up and writing policy on it. Normally id say its fine to ignore it but since they've written policy on it left wingers need to reverse that and get protections in place.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 9 hours ago

Hopefully in my part of the world the challenges based on discrimination and rights violation go through. Once that reinforces that no, you can't do these things, it becomes a closed topic.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 19 hours ago (1 children)

You can’t give an inch is the issue. Not only because we’re talking about fundamental human rights (trans people should just accept not being permitted to engage in sports?) but because it only shifts the Overton window onto the next thing with arguments now strengthened by capitulation.

If you permit transphobes the position that trans women are dangerous in sports it becomes easier to point to that and say “see, they are also dangerous in [new domain of contention], the progressives even agree!

[–] [email protected] 3 points 19 hours ago

My point is that you arent giving up on that point you're avoiding it. Its not a popular point and if you try to argue it you lose in the minds of the average person. By avoiding the issue and talking about stronger examples like Trans people being humans who want to play sport to make friends and have fun you get a much stronger position to argue from.

[–] [email protected] 27 points 1 day ago (2 children)

I usually point out that the Olympics have allowed trans contenders since 2004, and if it was the cheat code it's asserted to be, the entire Chinese and Russian teams would be trans people. That usually gets people thinking "huh, maybe this is some bull"

[–] [email protected] 11 points 23 hours ago

That’s another good point!

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[–] BellyPurpledGerbil 14 points 1 day ago (1 children)

You can't logically argue your way out of bigotry. They don't care whether they're actually correct or not about trans issues. They already wanted to harm us and remove us from society where possible, and will find any reason to do so. See: the bathroom debates.

I'd rather people just stood up for us at all than act like they need to make good points in order for us to exist. You're all playing kickball and we're the ball.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 21 hours ago

Its not about presenting a logical argument. I think at this point we've seen that doesnt work. Its about presenting an emotionally convincing argument. Shifting the focus to causal sports is more likely to convince the average person that its fine. This does two things it prevents the conversation shifting to extreme examples and it plants the seed for conversations about trans participation in competitive sport.

[–] [email protected] 51 points 1 day ago (2 children)

That's the problem with platforms that offshoot for free speech reasons.

I want to be able to say eat the rich and luigi magione was right.

Others want to spout hate in all forms.

Then people begin to argue these are the save of you should tolerate intolerance. Which you should never do

[–] [email protected] 2 points 19 hours ago (1 children)

I want to be able to say eat the rich and luigi magione was right.

You can. [email protected] & [email protected]

You just can't advocate for violence.

[–] [email protected] 16 points 19 hours ago* (last edited 19 hours ago) (2 children)

That seems like a contradictory statement

Also read this instances TOS and it is pretty lame. I have particular issue with no war footage. If you are in a democratic nation that is either in a war or funding a war you should see it's results for what it is. War is ugly and hiding that is a great disservice to the world

But I suppose the advantage of lemmy is I can simply find an instance not afraid to share those and still have access to this one

[–] [email protected] 4 points 16 hours ago

Honestly I don't entirely disagree. But it is a very... nuanced situation.

I think there's a layer of subjectivity that protects us from getting banned from LW. Things like "free Luigi" and "Luigi did nothing wrong" are fine because they're not directly advocating for violence. But you can't say X, Y, or Z should get murdered. I think that's the line.

I moderate both of those subs but honestly I think I'd agree with you, .world was not the best place to create those communities.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 18 hours ago (1 children)

Sorry for the random question but I’m pretty new to the whole lemmy/fediverse thing.

If I’m signed up through lemmy world and someone shares something like this in a different server will I still see it in my feed? Or would I need an account elsewhere.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 17 hours ago* (last edited 17 hours ago) (2 children)

If browsing all posts and if lemmy.world is "federated" with that server then yes.

But I don't think that's very likely.

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