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I have heard from multiple people that eye contact is essential in letting a girl (or guy, I guess) know you're interested.
But what is the 411 when it comes to said eye contact? Do you keep looking until she does? Do you then keep staring? Or is like looking at the sun? What's the deal?
All eye contact is “I am interested in you” eye contact.
To do this, you look at the person’s eyes while they are looking at yours.
The trick is to never look away. Stare till they notice, then keep staring. Have to get up to use the restroom? Maintain eye contact as long as possible and reestablish it the moment you're back in sight. If they get up, the responsibility to maintain that eye contact is on you. Make sure to stay within eyesight, following them if necessary. This is your chance, we're rooting for you!
Eye contact is basic human communication of “I’m cool with you.” Don’t rely on it to express romantic interest. Avoiding eye contact can express a lot of things, most of them negative. Sure, you can express more with a look but it can come off creepy if you don’t have a rapport with that person.
Make eye contact when talking to or listening to all people you like. That’s just basic social interaction. If you’re interested in someone romantically, tell them—ask them out.
There’s no secret handshake or look. Talk to them.
There’s no secret handshake or look. Talk to them.
Oh absolutely, I'm just looking to make a spark (like making eye contact) and let my social skills be the fuel. Or not, if she's not interested.
At first, you look at them until they notice, then you look away. The first time, they'll probably be irritated, because for all they know, you looked at them, because their hair looks silly or whatever. Then give it some time before you look again. In some sense, you can play it like you've just been caught looking at them, so you don't want to be caught again right away.
Then you repeat that a couple times and try to gauge their reaction (without directly looking at them). If they catch onto you and make an ew face, then definitely abort mission. If they smile, that's a good sign.
Then you can try to hold the stare a little longer before looking away and again, see if they smile. Eventually, you can try keeping the eye contact for a few seconds while they smile at you and then you smile back.
At that point, it's definitely time to talk to them. They would not keep up the smile, if they had doubts about going on a date, although it's obviously still not a guarantee. Sometimes, they only realize that they can't follow through when it gets serious.
But this whole spiel does communicate that you're shy about it. If that's not how you feel, it's better to talk to them right away.
In general, the more time you take before doing the talk, the more serious it is, because then it's not just a spontaneous "you're cute, wanna go out and see if we fit", but rather a "I've been observing you for the past weeks and worked out that you are my dream partner ~~please marry me right away~~". So, yeah, don't take too long before you talk to them.
no amount of body language can replace real, audible, words.
Wink and point. Licking your lips is good too. Also, the Elvis lip curl. Bite your lower lip.
There are so many.
Hell if I know, it just seems to happen. I don't think I can consciously do it.
Adding a smile goes a long way, or at least it used to.
