I have no problem communicating with people through verbal means, but I don't get body language beyond the obvious (e.g. smiling). I mean, I get why people do it but I don't get how people do it. Generally this isn't a big deal but it does make dating really frustrating. I can communicate my own interest indirectly through verbal innuendo, but if the other person is doing anything non-verbal then I'll miss it.
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I'm going to be the 'tenth dentist' here and say eating spicy food.
I understand that eventually people build a tolerance so it hurts less but I can't comprehend being willing to even reach that point, especially since it's still not completely pain free I have been told.
Those I've asked say it's a really good flavor, but to me that sounds like being willing to eat a handful of broken glass (assuming no long term damage) as long as it tastes good. There are other foods that taste good and don't hurt, not even slightly.
For me, eating spicy food calms me down. I suffer from anxiety and eating spicy food allows me to exist only in the here and now. I am of course not saying that everyone who eat spicy food is anxious, it is only my personal preference.
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Plus spicy isn't even a flavour. It's the sensation of heat receptor nerves being chemically stimulated.
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Insisting to spend your attention on exactly 1 (one) significant other.
I can't imagine being monogamous.
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Having or liking pets. Pictures of then I can see the appeal of, but the living beings are annoying at best or downright scary.
Never grew up with them, was always silently judged for being afraid of my classmates' pets if I came over
One of the cats that I've been lucky enough to know in my life was quite simply the kindest, most lovable soul who has ever walked upon this Earth.
Everyone who met her loved her, and everyone she met, she loved.
Her heart was unaware of the existence of hatred, or cruelty, or guile, and she breathed the air of this world for 12 years having never experienced any of those feelings.
I promise you: there are connections that you can make with animals that can change the shape of your heart and the course of your life. It's fine and no biggie if you never want to or get to experience that, but just know: some of the most beautiful hearts you might ever meet just happen to be animals. :)
I got a tiny terrier/Chihuahua mix dog last year and she is the best thing that's happened to me in a long time. She is so adorable and funny and playful, and makes me look forward to coming home. She loves wrestling with her toys, and she sleeps next to me just about every night. She also helps me get outside and go on walks more.
How could I not like that??
My only issue is that we have to kill and make kibble from lots of animals to feed these carnivores. But I love my dog and my life and health is better with him in it.
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Having a cat as a roommate, I understand. My arms/hands/ankles are especially unsafe around him... At least the 3-4am blood-curdling screams have stopped. He learned that screaming me into sudden half-awakeness doesn't usually get him food, so I guess there's less reason to do it. 🥲
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Counting someone else’s tragedy as a personal blessing AKA when the privileged make someone else’s tragedy about them.
“I’m so blessed” whilst looking upon someone who’s struggling with mental or physical issues/homeless. And they explain it as their way of having gratitude.
I’m all for the gratitude lists but it’s not meant to be another channel wax on the narcissism and quell esteem issues by comparing yourself to others. Need a benchmark to know you’re doing well? Compare yourself with where you were yesterday. Not where someone else is today.
Esteem boosts shouldn’t come at the cost of pulling attention from someone else’s tragedy to pat yourself on the back.
making someone else's tragedy about them
esteem boosts
Interesting take. When someone says they are blessed or grateful for whatever reason (even in the context of another's tragedy), I see it more as acknowledging how much of our own circumstances are outside of our control, a perfectly normal and healthy thing to recognize and nothing to do with boosting one's own self esteem.
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