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... *cringe*

Note:It's a joke and at the same time it's not.
Isn't it ironic how the most typical casual greeting formula, aiming at establishing a friendly connection to the other, can be like a torture -- exactly because no honest answer is expected.

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[โ€“] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

I wish we could normalize saying "Hi! Good to see you!" instead.

"How are you doing?" is so ambiguous it borders on redundant. It's also just so drawn out, it's like playing tennis with prepackaged words.

At least with "Hi, good to see you", you can quickly convey how engaged you are without being rude or weird. "Yeah, you too" would be a polite "not in the mood to talk" reply, while a "Good to see you too!" would be more friendly and sociable.

I'm not even autistic and I hate this linguistic game.

[โ€“] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago (2 children)

It cracks me up that 20hrs went by, and no one responded ๐Ÿ˜† That's a really good joke

I don't really understand the question. What specifically are you wondering about?

  1. If you're asking how my mind is doing, I'm not sure. If you're asking about the trajectory of my life, I'm not sure. If you're asking me how my body feels, I'm not sure. If you're asking how my day is going, then ask the day. I guess regardless of the spirit of the question, the answer is that I'm not sure.

  2. If you don't care and are actually trying to spark up conversation, it would be more helpful to introduce a topic so that I could engage in it.

  3. I'm triggered lol

  4. I'm good. How about you? looks away uncomfortably

[โ€“] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

Well, it has yet to come alive. No worries.
edit: "alexithymia"

btw. i believe that i am actually quite sure about my inner states, just that i don't want to boil it down to simple verbal language because that doesn't fit it. I would need to use a different language. Give me the right music and i will dance it, or let me get my drum and i will drum it!

[โ€“] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

yes! I'm much better at communicating my inner states through music, movement, and behaviors.

When people ask me how I'm doing, I want to respond by saying, "Look at what I'm doing and guess, because that's what I'm going to do."

them: how are you doing?

me: I don't know. I'm maniacally cleaning the house...so I probably feel disorganized, like things are out of control, and energetic.

them: woah, I didn't know things were that bad.

me: they're not because I'm cleaning the house.

them: I'm so confused ๐Ÿค”

me internally: and I'm supposed to be the disordered one ๐Ÿ™„

[โ€“] [email protected] 0 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

Uh why do you ask? ... Well, it's not so easy to answer and there's a word for that ... i was just walking along, no better my body was auto-walking because my mind which is not currently under my control is, how do i explain that, kind of dreaming, so, i was just full with this story and your question is disturbing that now. Where am i. You know ... no you don't, well it's about my idea how to make that thing better, that new internet community thing i'm currently doing excessively, you must know that often i do things excessively ... i have told you before but you are probably ignorant ... but i should not be so judgemental i know that frustrates me, so i should actually feel bad, ah well. And this new thing is just giving me so much delightful input, aehm i mean my mind not i but that is a whole different story about who i am actually, ... that i have actually forgotten to sleep last night, so i'm actually not so well but what word is there for it ... Anyway, yeah, in order to tell you how i'm doing i should explain how it came to this new thing. That was when Reddit went nuts, you know, just like they always do in this sick system, but that is a whole other story. And you probably don't know what Reddit is, but that doesn't matter so much anymore, let's just call it ... what was the word for that. It's not a chatroom but lots of people there. Well, actually with Reddit one could not be so sure anymore because it was infested by machines, too, so that all makes this new place so exciting, and now there's a lot of frustration going on with the long-time members, which i'm not actually a part of, so i can as well just watch their fighting, yes a lot of fighting vibes, and a lot of them, nah ok maybe it's still just a miniscule amount of people but it's probably the smarter ones which is a good thing, they move over to this new thing, and there is some chaos. And this is better because it's supposed to be community made and all, and no corporate shit, and real people, and all is friendly, and yea now i'm stuffing my mind, i mean my mind is stuffing itself by looking at the little screen all day, with all the exciting stuff, and it makes me feel cozy at home somehow although i know it's all virtual. Yea but i've been sleepless and i forgot to eat, so i should be miserable, and maybe i am because i neglect myself, oh man. ... But now that i have just stood there avoiding to look in your face for ... five seconds, and you are probably not interested in that stuff anyway, i should perhaps say something ...

"Yea so-so ... a bit tired but ok. ... And maybe dehydrated."

[should i really post this now? maybe i should put a smiley at the end so that they know i'm trying to be funny about my fractal mind LOL]

๐Ÿค— [Hey i have discovered the emojis but there is no simple smiley ... ah leave it be, just tap Reply]

[โ€“] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

this is the most autistically validating thing I've read all week! I'm not the only one that thinks in the style of your comment. thanks for posting it.

[โ€“] [email protected] 1 points 11 months ago (1 children)

Hello! I'm doing pretty well (good? what is the correct grammar for this? Shit. I'm doing it again...)

/s

[โ€“] [email protected] 1 points 10 months ago (1 children)

"I'm doing good!" -- in order to return some og the confusion. ๐Ÿ˜

[โ€“] [email protected] 1 points 10 months ago (2 children)
[โ€“] [email protected] 1 points 10 months ago

I hope asking didn't get me banned.

[โ€“] [email protected] 1 points 10 months ago (1 children)

Well it looks like this rather belongs to the DM session you started. But perhaps make a separate post, asking everyone?

[โ€“] [email protected] 1 points 10 months ago

No, doesn't really belong in the DM at this stage but it's still interesting to see what people think about it. I always feel that book doesn't get enough attention.

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