It's either look cute and sweat to death, or be comfortable. The mom bras have it IMO.
Both of their clothing looks so spicy! But in a formal way ~
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I literally have never had a bra that fit correctly, and it fucks me up. I've told an employee at VS my size one time (as calculated by ABraThatFits) and the just told me "no it's not" and then could not find me anything that fit.
Thing is: my boobs aren't even that big?? Apparently it's a ratio thing that makes it so difficult to find?? Band size is 30/32, cup size is DDD/E. I don't want to risk ordering online and wasting money (I want to try it on!), so I'm stuck with terrible & uncomfortable fits.
Oh geez. The couple that I have that fit ok were from that subs calculator. The whole thing is horrible.
The sub was fantastic in validating me when I thought I was bonkers. Really wish we had more general support (HA!) communities on Lemmy.
I wonder if I could make it big with a bra shop that sizes well and hand mades the band size
Yeah, my spouse learned the hard way to ignore bra shop employees - around here, all the bras are on the floor so its easy enough to find the size you need (if it exists) without help.
That being said, once you get to E cup and higher, you are better off dealing with online retailers with good return policies.
Hey! So I actually have near the exact problem you do (30G), and I just wanted to recommend three brands that actively work for me, Natori and Chantelle! I like their unlined molded bras- they work wonders for me! Tiny band and big boob is such a pain in the ass (especially if they're lopsided)! I'm also fond of Change Bras if you're in Canada or in Europe. I tried them on at Dillard's (or Change bras when I visit Canada) and bought them second hand on depop or eBay. Tho if you're happy with funky designs you can get very lucky with clearance at places like dillards (found a bra for $10 -it's purple and orange and it's my favorite)! Amazon also has a decent try before you buy policy too. Good luck ✨
For me it's the shape rather than the size. I mean, the size too, but I'm happy with sister sizes. It's just that i always get spilling at the side and gaps in the middle. I've given up on molded cups altogether.
I am annoyed that "A" isn't literally flat. Scales using the first few numbers or letters should consider leaving enough headroom to avoid atrocities such as PH000 (screwdriver) or A+++ (pre-2021 EU appliance rating).
I don't know much about the European sizes other than they are a lot more granular than US sizes, which has both pluses and minuses. Makes me wonder if a braswap community here would be worthwhile.
To be honest, I'm a single man and thus know nothing about them in practice, I just checked that all the scales use AA (and who knows, maybe AAA or smaller)
I was so happy when I finally got a cup size large enough that any bras were available in stores. Still barely any cute ones, but the mum ones are more comfy anyway ¯_(ツ)_/¯
It is kinda annoying. Properly fitting bras shouldn't take a trip to a lingerie store to get a fit. And even then you might wind up with sagging or overflow. And even if the fit is right, you can wind up with a material that makes you sweat night or day.
I have to use unlined panache bras, all the bras I tried getting in other american brands with like foam cups didn't fit right. I'm American and used the abrathatfits calculator. I went up a band size to 36 since the original 34 band recommended was kinda tight so I'm a 36E (UK). Amazon is great for trying and returning bras. Otherwise there is nowhere else to shop locally for me besides the big corpo stores that only sell ill fitted bras. Honestly if I want to look cute I wear panache bras, otherwise I wear 2xl sports bras with the pads taken out.
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