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@mtf Tell us one of your of your most Gender Affirming Experiences you've had :3

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[–] [email protected] 29 points 2 months ago (1 children)

A friend took some photos of me on a holiday, and when another friend saw them she asked who the girl was.

I nearly died from happiness

[–] [email protected] 8 points 2 months ago

Awww that's so sweet. Glad you got to be yourself :3

[–] [email protected] 24 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) (5 children)

My husband seeing a picture of my dad when he was much younger and asking when I got that picture taken of me ☺️

Edit: fuck I’m sorry I didn’t notice this was in mtf! Thought it was in the general trans community. I can delete if this bothers anyone

[–] [email protected] 8 points 2 months ago

You're fine! It's still an amazing affirming moment and I love that for you! <3

[–] [email protected] 8 points 2 months ago

We love our FtM kings!

[–] [email protected] 7 points 2 months ago

You are 100% welcome to participate here 😊

[–] [email protected] 6 points 2 months ago (1 children)

I think it should be fine as it's a wonderful experience. Also if you have any general trans communities would love to join.

Awwww so sweet of your husband :3

[–] [email protected] 4 points 2 months ago (1 children)

[email protected] is what I’ve mostly been participating in for a general trans community!

[–] [email protected] 4 points 2 months ago

Thank you we will start using that community to post in :3

[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 months ago
[–] [email protected] 18 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) (1 children)

Not trans but I think I definitely accidentally gave my recently out friend one of these moments. We had hung out in larger groups a bit pre-transition then a mutual friend invited a bunch of folks over for a bbq and she came presenting fem and I straight up introduced myself to her. We definitely had had at least a few hours of chatting directly with her in boymode but did not recognize her at all. 😅

Never seen someone smile so widely in my life. I was mortified but now in hindsight she probably fist-pumped over it later. 🤣💜

[–] [email protected] 6 points 2 months ago (1 children)

Awww that's so nice, yes it is relevant. Hope you two have wonderful times talking as she seems like a nice person that most likely loved that you done that

[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) (1 children)

Here’s a fun follow up - she recently took me and my SO to the gun range and taught us to shoot! We armed and fabulouss~ 🤣💁

[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 months ago

Sexy people managing guns does sound like a fun time.

[–] [email protected] 15 points 2 months ago (1 children)

I recently reconnected with an ex after coming out and we have become good friends again. It feels so good to have a close female friend, but there is one moment in particular that sticks with me. We were talking about relationships and stuff and i was unsure if i should tell a saucy story and she said "omg tell me everything. You're one of the girlies now!" I nearly cried. I think about that comment all the time.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 2 months ago

Awww, that's so cute, it's always great when you get accepted by people. Even more so when they were someone you knew before coming out.

[–] [email protected] 13 points 2 months ago

I post a few pics of myself online and people respond saying I'm cute and very cute.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 2 months ago (1 children)

Probably the most affirming expriance I've had was when a new neighbor moved into our small apartment building and we got into a little bit of a chat. Some when in she asked me "oh, you're -neighbor with female name-, right?" I was, in fact, not that neighbor. What makes it specifically special was that I haven't done much as in voice training and my voice usually gives away that I'm born male. I still try to sound as androgynous as I can but it's reeaallyy hard.

Since that story is quite boring, here are 3 other affirming stories:

At an anime convention, I went into the men's bathroom to wash my hands and apply more black lipstick. Back then (and even now), the ladies bathroom almost sounds like sin to go into for me (thank you dad). To appear more fem, I wearing a very short skirt and a crop-top. It worked so well actually that some guy opened the bathroom door, saw me, IMMEDIATELY apologized and walked back out. He did come in again after looking at the bathroom sign and asked but ya. It felt so good finally not fitting in a space I was forced into for my entire life so far.

A second public bathroom story ٩(•ᴗ•)۶. I was in Cologne (Germany) for a day because of a small event in the Bootshaus. On our way there, me and a friend of mine had to go to the bathroom, so we decided to go at the bathroom of the train station Köln messe/deutz (we went separately and guarded our baggage and stuff). In any case, I walked in and someone instantly saw me and told me to get the fuck over to the ladies bathroom. The scared little bitch that I am, I just put on my male voice and said that I sadly had to go here... He left me alone after that but still very funny and affirming.

And finally, a non-bathroom related story. Literally 3 days ago, coming home from a Pride parade, a train ticked guy asked me for my ticket. Since I've just been on a pride parade, I was dressed quite fem and slutty. Anyways, I gave him my ticket and ID. THE FACE OF THAT POOR GUY AS HE GOT VISABLY CONFUSED WHEN SEEIBG MY NAME AND OLD PIC. It was amazing. Nothing really happened and h didn't question it and just left me to my ways.

What makes all of this even more euphoric of me tho is the fact that I'm not on HRT yet. I do have strangely high natural estro level which might have made me grow up quite a bit fem too. I guess I'm kinda blessed with the f1nnster gen, where I can look both quite masc and quite fem c:

[–] [email protected] 4 points 2 months ago

Awww those are quite nice stories, glad you were able to share them and love that the bathroom that we are meant to use seems to be backfiring on them as it makes the men feel uncomfortable.

Glad you got to feel yourself several times, stay safe out there.