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[–] [email protected] 42 points 3 months ago (1 children)

The use of Lady/Male is kinda off putting

[–] [email protected] 9 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago)

I mean, if its based on how that person identifies ... Otherwise, I could maybe see it, but still leaning more towards: why not just ask?

[–] [email protected] 35 points 3 months ago (1 children)

I upvote and downvote for the silliest of reasons all the time. Don't overthink everything. Not everything is a value statement.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago)

Going into a community to downvote one of the most wholesome posts that community gets is very much something like a value statement.

I get that a lot of people are looking at the unfiltered "all" feeds for their instances, but damn, it seems like few, if any, communities here are large enough for the outrage some of their content will attract from outsiders.

[–] [email protected] 26 points 3 months ago (3 children)

Eyo what.

49 Partners??

I think at this point its more F+ than a relationship. Which is cool, but where do you get the time to talk to all of them? Are they a full-time partner? Even then. This has to be bait. Ain't no way u talking to 49 partners on the regular. Is the whole neighborhood in on this? What is happening.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago)

They all live out in a camp they call "The Compound", but Bobby has started stocking fuel and guns ever since the barbed topped fence got built.

Apparently the title Prophet are being used for when they elect a new Speaker at the council

Source: I made it all up

[–] [email protected] 8 points 3 months ago

Gotta get to 99 so we can all play Tetris

[–] [email protected] 2 points 3 months ago

Not my post in the screenshot ... Nice freakout over another's business though. Quality stuff.

[–] [email protected] 22 points 3 months ago (1 children)

I feel like downvotes kinda make sense given that they said group has a lot of parents/children and siblings. I don't even know if this is bait or not.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) (1 children)

Yours is the first mention I've found of children as members in that community, and its an NSFW-allowed community, so I have no idea where you got that notion.

That said, I would block any minor or minor-welcoming instance I became aware of on Lemmy. I'm not here to interact with that level of immaturity; I still regret not leaving facebook the moment they allowed teens(and grand-parents/boomers - yes it was an all-at-once change).

[–] [email protected] 16 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) (1 children)

Not legal children, I meant children of other members of the community. Not overt pedophilia, just weird bordering incest that I understand people being averse to.

https://lemmy.world/post/14925178

They say they aren't letting blood relatives have sex but I would still feel odd belonging to a relationship with my dad and sister where everyone is having sex with all of us.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 3 months ago (1 children)

Jesus. Not even what I thought you were getting at, at all. I was thinking more like Narc-anon.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 3 months ago

No it's just a lot of blood relatives in there it seems

[–] [email protected] 8 points 3 months ago (2 children)

try reaching out to mods or admins, that post shows 0 downvotes from my instance which could mean there is vote manipulation/botting happening on an instance mine is defederated from

that said, 196 may not be the place to air this grievance. better communities for this exist really

[–] [email protected] 5 points 3 months ago (1 children)

196 lives on the Blajah Zone instance, which has down votes disabled. BZ doesn't federate down votes so 196 Post will only show the down votes from other users on your instance, and each instance will show a different number of down votes.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 3 months ago

yeah but none of the users or posts involved are blahaj zone. literally the only blahaj related element to this post is that OP complained here.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 3 months ago (1 children)

More likely the downvotes come from users you've already blocked or an instance with which yours is not federated. Supposedly, there are also instances that only show local votes as well.

Regardless, you are the only one who has said they didn't see any downvotes, so far.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) (1 children)

nope, blocking users does not hide their downvotes. know this from experience. also confirmed without being signed in. my instance also does not show only local votes either, but pulls them in from all federated instances. so neither of those are realistic possibilities.

edit: link to see exactly how it looks from my end

[–] [email protected] 1 points 3 months ago

I don't care about hiding the downvotes. I simply have no interest in seeing their comments/replies to others or myself.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 3 months ago

I'm not sure if anyone could help with that. The best nicknames are specific to that person, so any suggestions wouldn't make sense without knowing what type of person I'm naming. Just identify their vibe and find a word to describe it that isn't already taken.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 3 months ago (1 children)

I mean they’ve got multiple blood relatives in the group. Seems way too close to incest for my and probably most other people’s tastes. Totally understandable why someone would downvote that, and I don’t think that warrants a block at all :\

[–] [email protected] 1 points 3 months ago (1 children)

Kudos to you on digging through their comments/post history. I see plenty of drama just looking at those that cross my path. From where I'm sitting, digging like so is just looking for the very things you claim to not want to see.

Me? I would rather fool around with my wife's sister than all that, and/or hang out with those who do such things. If you can't see the line between that and actual incest, its you with the blurred boundary issue. That said, my wife has no siblings, and I don't need the drama enough to be sad about it.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 3 months ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 1 points 3 months ago

Thanks for reminding me that you are exactly the sort of person I mean to block in this post. I had made the mitake of engaging with you as if you were coming from a place of sincerity, but here, we part ways.