My friends like to make plans but refuse to decide on a meeting time so that I'm stuck in torturous limbo land all day. Assholes don't understand the pain.
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"oh I wasn't sure if you are still coming so I made other plans"
Better than a 7am appointment, now that will really ruin my day. Doesn't matter if I got 8 hours sleep the night before (I definitely didn't but let's pretend for a moment), I'm going to be tired for the rest of the week.
Best just not have an appointment
Unfortunately in real life that isn't an option.
It is if you avoid people and never leave your house!
Sadly most people can't make enough money to survive doing that, because any job that let's you work from home WILL requires appointments and meetings even if they're just over zoom. And zoom appointments are about 500 hundred times worse for me shudder.
i don't think i'm qualified to treat my testicular tumor
edit: didn't see what community this was in my feed, laughing that i chose "testicular" now
Ahh come on, there's gotta be a YouTube tutorial on how to do that, maybe a wikiHow or instructables page.
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I have the opposite experience. I use early appointments as a tool to get me up and moving, dressed, presentable, etc. Then I have some momentum for the later part of the morning and afternoon.
It's 2:28pm. I'm almost there. I managed to lessen the agony by researching a surgery my dog might need and making opossum memes. Just 30 more minutes, and I can have this damn meeting, then enjoy my day.
I feel like any appointment is problematic.
I hate scheduling things... but also don't call me out of the blue.
Just leave me alone, is all I'm asking.
Why? That's the best time of day for an appointment. I've plenty time to actually sleep well, not rush to get ready, not be late, actually be awake when I get there. Well I might still be late
Because I'm gonna get up at 10, slowly get ready until about noon, and then be in stasis until it's time for the appointment.
Sounds alright. I've got a phone, computer, TV, job. Might not be focused enough to actually be productive, but I'd rather that than be rushed, unready and unslept
Sure, would have been nice to do literally anything else with my whole-ass day though.
Just reading this makes me uncomfortable
I used to work 5pm shifts every day, it was hell until I finally just started going to bed at 8-9am and waking up an hour before my shift started. Anything can be a morning activity if you’re flexible enough on what morning means.
This is okay for me - if I have the day off, I can sleep in (that’s huge for me); if I have to work, cool, I can leave a bit early.
But I also understand that not everyone’s internal clock works the same, and so a win for one of us is a loss for others.
May everyone be able to find what works for them and make it happen :)
Internal... clock... you say? Interesting.
Bruh, 9am or bust
Or any time, really.
I'm sorry but how in the hell is this in any way related to ADHD? ADHD doesn't make you fixate on some future events all day unless you're like, super excited about it or something I guess. In fact, it's often the opposite, getting fixated/distracted by other things and ending up late to meetings if you're not careful. ADHD is a very specific disorder of executive function and while it can manifest in a variety of ways, there's always an underlying mechanism behind it that makes some kind of sense. It's not a blanket "oh I can't manage any responsibilities haha".
Seriously, people these days will just lump every little thing in with ADHD and it drives me crazy. I have had (actually diagnosed) ADHD my whole life (way before all this self-diagnosis nonsense on Tiktok) and have learned a variety of strategies for managing it. It's posts like this that make it difficult for people who actually do have ADHD, because it makes people confused about what it actually is and what it's actually like to live with. ADHD is not a Boogeyman you can blame all your problems on and treating it as such does a huge disservice to people that actually have the condition.
/rant
These adhd posts are never accurate. Mild anxiety is major adhd nowadays
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