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My daughter is studying abroad in Denmark, and her experience has triggered the worsening of “disordered eating” into an eating disorder. It’s not nearly as common there as it is here in the US. She has a therapist there, a nutritionist here, and a very willing and helpful host family. I was hoping I could help her host family (don’t need it monetarily, but more as a comfort to them) with a meal delivery like Daily Harvest, which is here in the US. Is there anything like that there?

FYI we’ll bring her back if it’s out of hand. We all have eyes on it. I more wish I could help, while she’s there.


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The original was posted on /r/denmark by /u/Disastrous-Angle-680 at 2024-03-12 02:56:23+00:00.

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[–] [email protected] 1 points 7 months ago (2 children)

shhbaby_isok at 2024-03-12 03:32:17+00:00 ID: kuh1027


Hello, sorry to hear about your daughter. You sound like a loving and caring parent, and I hope she gets well soon. We have Hello Fresh in Denmark which is meal boxes, and also Nemlig.dk for direct groceries. And there's aastiderne.com which is boxes of fruits and vegetables.

Also you should know that if your daughter is ever in an avute mental health crisis there's the option of "psykiatisk skadestue" or "psychiatric ER".

You call in to the psychiatric hospital in her area (and you can call in on behalf of others or have her host family do it), and she'll get an acute appointment for assesment.

You will get an appointment with qualified doctors in the same day, even within a couple of hours. If you are very, very concerned about someone, it's even possible to call the police to get them do a mental health check and have them escort the patient to the ER (the police in Denmak are more gentle, but it's still a rough/shocking experience for the patient, so it's better saved for life and death concerns, and better if you can convince them to go yourself.)

When you are at the ER you'll talk through your feelings with the doctors, and what is going on, and they'll triage you for either outpatient or inpatient treatments, of varying length and intensity. They really assess the individual needs of the patient, and listen to what the patient would like/feel like would help them the most. No mandatory holds or strict boxes to fit in.

Remember, public health treatment in Denmark is free, even for visitors, so please don't hesitate out of monetary concern if your daughter needs help. I've been through the system myself.

A private psychologists can be expensive though, it is is possible to get some compensated sessions through contacting your primary care physician and disclosing that you are having mental health issues.

It can be a bit difficult to get through though, and there can be a long wait at a good psychologist, you have to do your own research, and contact them yourself.

That's why I recommend the psych ER for crisis as you get in front of a psychiatrist SO FAST, even though it can be daunting for someone to admit to themselves that they are even having a crisis. The moment you do, and let other people take care of you is such a relief though, and can even help in and of itself!

Both inpatient and outpatient and even getting to the ER with police escort, and I've been treated very well throughout. I definitely wouldn't have recovered and been here today, feeling good, and being stable with my mental health for several years now if it wasn't for these services, so that just why I want to let you know, in the worst case scenario.

All the best to you and your family, wishes for recovery and a big hug!

[–] [email protected] 1 points 7 months ago (2 children)

Sikkenogetmoeg at 2024-03-12 07:28:31+00:00 ID: kuhobjt


Health Care in Denmark isn’t free for visitors, just FYI.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 7 months ago (1 children)

shhbaby_isok at 2024-03-12 07:31:09+00:00 ID: kuhoj1g


Oh, I thought so? Last time I was in hospital I was roomies with a visitor from the US who had been very concerned about the bill, but (apparently) they let her leave for free, and she was relieved. I might have misheard, or she might have misunderstood, and I am happy to be corrected as I don't want to spread misinformation.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 7 months ago (1 children)

Sikkenogetmoeg at 2024-03-12 07:35:04+00:00 ID: kuhou49


Sometimes they don’t make a bill because it’s a) A hassle and b) many Danish healthcare workers object to people having to pay.

But in theory foreign visitors do have to pay (except EU-citizens, I Think)

[–] [email protected] 1 points 7 months ago

shhbaby_isok at 2024-03-12 08:09:46+00:00 ID: kuhrk4v


Ok, thanks for sharing your knowledge!

[–] [email protected] 1 points 7 months ago

abc24611 at 2024-03-12 10:15:29+00:00 ID: kui1kgf


I'm an udenlandsdansker and I dont "even" have free healthcare in Denmark. Seems fair enough though, I draw a travel insurance when I'm back home.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 7 months ago

thecipher at 2024-03-12 11:42:11+00:00 ID: kuia02z


Årstiderne actually has LOADS of meal boxes as well now, and unlike HelloFresh and others, they actually do single-person meal boxes - most places it's minimum 2 people.

Prices are kinda spicy though - I recently did a couple of weeks of their "sense" meal box for 1, and while they were pretty good, the price per meal came out to around 110 kroner or so.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 7 months ago (1 children)

Electronic-Ebb7474 at 2024-03-12 04:58:35+00:00 ID: kuhb16a


Maybe check out Getfitfood delivery. It’s meals you just need to heat up. It’s marketed towards people who work out, so maybe your daughter can find som comfort in knowing the exact energy content in one meal, while still getting the nutrition that will be good for her. 

[–] [email protected] 1 points 7 months ago

rottemold at 2024-03-12 09:53:04+00:00 ID: kuhznic


Just be aware that if it comes in small plastic containers studies show it could release synthetic estrogen into the food (especially if heated in those containers), might not be to big of a problem because she is a girl, but keep that in mind

Source: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3222987/

This leaching of estrogen-like component's from plastic into food is often accelerated if the product (plastic) is exposed to common-use stresses such as ultraviolet (UV) radiation in sunlight, microwave radiation

[–] [email protected] 1 points 7 months ago

kimr-dk at 2024-03-12 04:07:01+00:00 ID: kuh5apx


Check out https://www.aarstiderne.com/

[–] [email protected] 1 points 7 months ago

Oasx at 2024-03-12 03:25:30+00:00 ID: kuh049j


From what I can gather Daily Harvest are small vegan dishes that require very little preparation. I don't believe we have something completely similar, but we have a bunch of different meal kit companies, many of them offer meals ready to cook, and there are probably also vegan dishes among that, but whether it is quite the same I can't say.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 7 months ago

acetonegenius at 2024-03-12 03:13:13+00:00 ID: kugyhgg


We have HelloFresh in Denmark, and some other similar services. The best to your daughter!

[–] [email protected] 1 points 7 months ago

Peter34cph at 2024-03-12 04:39:21+00:00 ID: kuh8z8r


Others have talked about meal kits, but if you want delivery of already-cooked food, then there's fast food delivery (and some expensive café food) from Just-Eat and Foodora, of regular meals from Det Danske Madhus where you order for a weak at a time, you put the meals in the fridge, and then when you want to eat one you nuke it in the microwave for 4-8 minutes. It's much cheaper than fast food delivery, and healthier, but you have to order in advance.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 7 months ago

Ok-Use-8212 at 2024-03-12 03:25:30+00:00 ID: kuhfrvp


Maybe Saveabl depending on where she’s at

[–] [email protected] 1 points 7 months ago (2 children)

Sikkenogetmoeg at 2024-03-12 07:09:34+00:00 ID: kuhootc


I understand why you would want to try and help with a meal delivery service.

But as far as I know, eating disorders aren’t really about the food - and can’t be fixed with offering more food.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 7 months ago (1 children)

Peppermooski at 2024-03-12 12:01:56+00:00 ID: kuic8kp


This!!

[–] [email protected] 1 points 7 months ago

DuckRubberDuck at 2024-03-12 16:59:32+00:00 ID: kujnmo2


I second this! I hope OP sees this

[–] [email protected] 1 points 7 months ago

Disastrous-Angle-680 (OP) at 2024-03-12 22:20:41+00:00 ID: kul8ayf


I do understand definitely. We’re just looking at covering everything, even food, because it’s so stressful for the host family. Thank you for this comment though, I appreciate it, and I see your point.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 7 months ago

romedo at 2024-03-12 05:47:38+00:00 ID: kuhmsuv


Most likely this issue is not something that can be resolved by purchasing food packages or boxes. In general the quality of produce is quite good I Denmark and unless the host family is unable to purchase or prepare meals, you do not need those deliveries. Yes they are convenient and nice, but both the availability of supermarkets and the selection is fine. However, I do think the stress and pressure of living and studying abroad has worsened the underlying anxiety and control issues in your child. And a better way would be to ensure that she has someone to talk to. As someone points out Healthcare is free, but in particular mental care for teens do have a bit of a long lead in time, so a private option is perhaps something to be considered.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 7 months ago

_Rose_Williams at 2024-03-12 07:09:34+00:00 ID: kuhvycn


You don’t have to be so worried about that, yes she’s your daughter and you are playing a great role as her parents. Maybe not all foods are suitable for her diets and organs