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The transphobia stops now (lemmy.blahaj.zone)
submitted 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) by [email protected] to c/[email protected]
 

This community is housed on an instance run by two trans women, focused on the needs of the queer and gender diverse community.

We allowed 196 here because we were promised the community is queer and trans inclusive.

If you're here it's because you're aggressively supportive of trans folk. Not middle of the ground, not "just asking questions".

If your response to that is, "yes, but..." then this isn't the instance for you, and by extension, this isn't the community for you.

tl;dr - Unambiguous support and inclusion, or fuck off somewhere else.

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Edit - I changed the phrase "aggressive support to "unambiguous support", as there was some confusion over the intent behind my previous phrasing.

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[–] [email protected] 24 points 1 year ago

Also people remember to report assholes! Don't interact, report them. Mods will handle it.

[–] [email protected] 23 points 1 year ago

thank you so much for making this clear again ada, it was getting bad :(

[–] [email protected] 22 points 1 year ago (5 children)

I'll be honest I think alienating people feeling in the middle is a bad idea, making an echo chainber is ehat those other websites are for, and people on the middle ground are the ones whose beliefs matter the most as they they are the only ones that will change things.

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[–] [email protected] 22 points 1 year ago (16 children)

Personally, I don't think about other people's sexuality all that much, so I guess that makes me a non-aggressive supporter.

It's weird to impose this type of stuff, but I respect that this is your little space on the internet, so I'm leaving, as you asked. Thank you for the smiles and laughs.

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[–] [email protected] 20 points 1 year ago

🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍⚧️

[–] [email protected] 20 points 1 year ago (21 children)
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[–] [email protected] 20 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Lemmy is in a weird state. I appreciate not seeing casual homophobia/transphobia in mainstream places like 196, but they're also not exactly inclusive of actual out-and-grown-up queer people, and there aren't enough people here yet for actual safe places to exist. I posted a comment self-referentially calling myself (a trans woman ) a "f-----" or something, and it got downvoted and deleted. This was a problem on reddit, where transphobes would report trans people for using self-referential slurs, and tone deaf reddit admins would ban their accounts. Now it seems like we're going to do it again here.

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[–] [email protected] 20 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Yeah I have no problem with you being trans, I do have a problem with this goofiness. Good luck, friends.

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[–] [email protected] 19 points 1 year ago

Somewhat relevantly, I've long since wondered what even is the use of a patriarchy if men still can't wear skirts and nail polish.

[–] [email protected] 19 points 1 year ago

AGGRESSIVE SUPPORT FROM AN ENBY QUEER WEIRDO! I SUPPORT YOU FAM.

[–] [email protected] 17 points 1 year ago

Go go go. I’m so sick and tired of the hatred, the ignorance and frankly speaking, the stupidness.

I’m from a culture that is not very forgiving and tolerant, even though on the tin it says we are.

And it took me years to see and understand it. Now that I’ve conquered that ignorance, hell no we are not going to regress!!

[–] Abrslam 16 points 1 year ago
[–] [email protected] 16 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

I still have no idea how these communities are set up structurally. That said I'm quite pleased to see this as the community baseline. Stumbling into inclusivity is the best kind of stumbling.

[–] [email protected] 15 points 1 year ago (5 children)

I get the sentiment but damn are the trans memes painfully unfunny. Y'all gotta get better at making memes or this instance is gonna remain mid.

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[–] [email protected] 15 points 1 year ago
[–] cmat273 15 points 1 year ago

Hi! Trans person here. Your heart is in the right place, but this post is poorly written. You haven't even given examples of how this is currently/could be applied. Some people are just that uneducated about trans people. If they're leading questions that invalidate us, sure. But otherwise what's the harm? For 196 there's no reason to ask about that stuff but the whole instance?? Your call in the end but I can think of a few ways this could go bad just from prior experience in other communities.

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