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This is a community for bisexuals, their allies, friends, family, anyone curious about us or our community, or just people who want to hang out.

Bisexual means different things to different people, and I'm not going to tell you what it should mean to you. But one thing I will say is that being bisexual does NOT mean being trans-exclusionary. We love no matter what dingles, dongles, or dangles you do or do not have in your pants.

Of course, there are the basic rules. No hate speech, no brigading, no doxing, no homophobia, no transphobia, no sexism, no racism, no illegal material. Rules will be added as needed.

At the moment, we do not have a hard and fast rule over NSFW images or posts, but I will say that this is a community about bisexuality, not for porn. Please don't make me ban NSFW content altogether.

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Here's my story.

Sometime in April a guy who was a friend of a friend started touching me, yes I know I should have not let this happen but I found him kinda hot so I let him touch me. Started questioning when I got home. I then developed a slight crush on him but got over it after a few weeks.

I should have handled the situation differently but it caused me to learn about myself.

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[โ€“] [email protected] 9 points 1 year ago (1 children)

This is always a fun convo!

I think it was gradual, and I knew way before I knew to label it as bi/pan (I like the bi colors more ๐Ÿ˜…). Boys even as early in elementary school would sometimes talk about how pretty or hot their teachers were, and I didn't realize they usually reserved such comments for the female teachers. So I started think it about any I found attractive, men included.

Past that, closer to teen years, I'd have fantasies of being caught masturbating, but the subject of those dreams also weren't restricted to just female figures in my life. Again, I didn't have a label for it, but it never felt weird or bad.

Later on in mid-high school, I was driving my friend home from a party and he asked me if I'd ever had a girl suck me off. I hadn't, and answered accordingly. He asked if I wanted to know how it felt and started massaging himself over his shorts. Horny vibes took over and I agreed and that was that. I think I tried to deny it a little, but I was always in the LGBTQ+ crowd in HS anyhow and it helped me accept it a lot quicker. The guy turned out to be gay, and I think people are fucking hot, regardless of gender presentation or biological equipment.

[โ€“] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Damn you have seen a lot. Its irrelevant but i really don't understand how guys can be straight. Today 2 guys told me that if I lost some weight "I could pull all the removed" my first tought was what is I wanted to pull guys too. Didn't say anything as I'm closeted sadly.

I have a lot of stories to tell if you want to hear more let me know

[โ€“] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago

Yeah that's always hard to deal with, the compliments get me flustered sometimes too. I can't really say much cause I'm in a relationship lmao. Also, I'm sure you could pull all the guys at your current weight too!

As someone who is ridiculously bi/pan, I can't understand how anyone can be attracted to just one gender. There are so many hot people in this world lmao

[โ€“] [email protected] 9 points 1 year ago

17 year old me in a party , found out I could kiss a boy and like it. Initially I was full of lesbian panic but no turns out bi panic all along. It was funny realization because I was so convinced I only liked girls , but nah if there is a boy i like i like kisisng them too.

[โ€“] [email protected] 7 points 1 year ago

Ngl I found out when I first heard the term bi from Mae Borowski in Night In The Woods, I looked it up after and that's how I not only figured out I was bi but a part of the lgbt community in general!

[โ€“] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago

I think it was gradual for me. /r/bisexual on Reddit helped me a lot actually. I'm a male (genderqueer technically) and I am like 90% attracted to women (or people presenting as women), but there were always guys that made me stop and go "oh dear is it hot in here" if you know what I mean. However I never felt like I "qualified" for calling myself bisexual because I have never had sex with a guy or I didn't like guys "enough". The folks at /r/bisexual helped me realize "Nope, still bi, have fun!". Hot people are hot, that's all that matters.

(On the note of bi/pan, I feel like bi encompasses everything that pan does. HOWEVER bi colors > pan colors :) )

[โ€“] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago

It's been a journey of confused feelings and denial most of my life leading to, after dating a bisexual woman and pulling a lot of the bullshit the community complains about, thinking about myself more and trying to discover myself. It was a slow build-up, starting with me saying that I was, "80% straight." Eventually, I accepted that my real first celebrity crush had been on Anthony Perkins. While I still am more attracted to women more often, it's nice to accept my attraction not to everyone but to anyone.

[โ€“] [email protected] 2 points 3 months ago

I always knew I liked girls, but after enjoying playing with my bumhole in the bath as usual, I daydreamed about having a sex robot that could invert its genitals so I could see what it was like to have a dick in there. Then I realised that men have dicks and that therefore I would like to have a man put his dick in there, which was kind of a wild realisation.