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Relationship Advice

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Welcome to the Relationship Advice community on Lemmy and Kbin!

The ideal place to ask for help with your relationships: romantic, friendships, we don't know what we are yet, co-workers or just human interactions in general.

Please make sure you read our rules before posting.

Rules:

Rules can be clicked on to be expanded.

1: Treat all users with respect. [!]

The goal of this community is helping OP and readers, not making fun of them. We are an inclusive community, any sort of disrespect towards ethnicity, sexual orientation, religion, etc, will not be tolerated.

2: Mark sexual content as NSFW. [!]

Posts containing mentions or descriptions of sexual topics must be tagged as NSFW. This includes descriptions of sexual acts, requests for advice in the bedroom, explicit descriptions of your body and similar content.

3: All posts must be a request for advice.

All posts must be phrased as a request for advice or as a question. Sharing of stories, personal anecdotes, or past mistakes are only allowed if they're followed by a clear and relevant request for advice with the situation.

4: Provide sufficient and relevant information.

Your title and body need to contain enough information relevant to your situation, such as ages, genders, and the relationship between people mentioned. For privacy-related concerns, we recommend using fake names and broad general locations.

5: Comments must be on topic and relevant to OP.

Comments must be directly related to helping OP, asking for more information, providing relevant resources or otherwise relevant to the thread. Off-topic comments and remarks, suspicious attempts at gathering personal data from OP or other readers, or bullying will not be tolerated.

6: This is a community for requesting advice, not moral judgement.

Moral judgements, "AITA?" and other similar questions are better served by different communities.

Reddit reposts are allowed.

As a temporary measure and the result of a poll, Reddit reposts are allowed following an expanded set of rules: https://lemmy.world/post/317115

How are rules enforced and bans applied?

For the most part, this community operates under the assumption that users are acting in good faith and should be given second-chances for their mistakes. Posts and comments with very light rule violations, or otherwise undesired but mostly harmless content, can be removed by a moderator on a case by case basis without any further punitive actions.

For violations of our rules, we follow a “3 strike” system as follows:

  • 1st violation: 72 hours ban + moderator warning via PMs.

  • 2nd violation: 1 week ~ 1 month ban + final warning via PMs.

  • 3rd violation: 1 month ~ permanent ban.

The goal of this system is making sure users are made aware of their behavior before being permanently banned, but also protecting the community from any rule violations.

Exceptions:

While the “3 strike” system will be applied to the majority of situations, rules marked with a [!] in the sidebar signifies a rule that, if violated in an intentional, malicious or significant way, can warrant an immediate permanent ban regardless of the number of previous violations. This includes severe disrespect to users or groups, dangerous content, and similar.

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Hello! Thanks for browsing our community. While our goal is providing advice, a listening ear, suggestions or another look at your relationships, there are many situations that are above the capabilities of a Lemmy community: potentially abusive or violent behavior, deep personal issues that can't be shared online, immediate requests for help, and similar scenarios.

Keeping in mind that our users are just people from all across the world, from all walks of life, please be advised that we cannot and do not intent on replacing any sort of professional help. In an effort to better support people in vulnerable situations, we will use this thread to list important resources that might help you:

  • HotPeachPages: a directory of international hotlines to help people facing potentially abusive relationships.
  • The Deaf Hotline: a host of useful resources for understanding signs of abuse and, most importantly, an American Sign Language accessible hotline.
  • The Trevor Project: a LGBTQ+ focused source of resources and 24/7 counseling.

This post is a sticky and will be made constantly available in our homepage. If you have any suggestions for important resources to be added, please contact a moderator.

As always, remember your life matters and your voice can be heard.

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[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I had to quit recently due to being over-worked/long-covid, but I was a caseworker for adults with mental illness for years and often used this site with my clients. It's all free evidence-based resources and I would highly recommend adding it to your list of resources.

They cover a wide range of mental illnesses, dysfunctional thinking, social skills, general stress, coping with loss, etc. There's really great material in some of the modules (definitely remember it's in the anger one) on fair fighting, which I think would be really helpful for this sub (or whatever they're called here--still learning terminology..) Teaching to use "I" statements instead of "you" statements is essential!

One module I believe everyone who struggles with distress from their symptoms should read is on distress intolerance. I know I learned and benefited a lot myself from presenting these materials in a group I would host.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

Thanks for sharing that resource. I've been doing a lot of self-help lately too but still found myself especially weighed down today. The website was really straightforward and had friendly, simple advice, which was relieving.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

is reposting relationship advice posts that were on reddit ok

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

I might open a poll to decide that. Reposting would mean the original OP doesn't see the advice, which goes against the spirit of this community - however, I can see value in reposts as a way to quickstart a community on Lemmy that's currently not receiving a lot of original content. Give me a few moments and I'll poll users, then comment on the post with your vote.