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My friend John mentioned that he has been feeling depressed lately. There have been some bad things in his logs that would make anyone sad but the things that normally bring him happiness aren't doing anything for him lately. It's something he has struggled with in the past. He has a counselor and has been prescribed anti-depressants. I'm not worried about him harming himself.

My understanding is that part of being a friend to someone facing depression is reaching out to spend time with them.

How much should I reach out? I don't want to harass him, and he has a wife and other friends (that are emotionally closer than me). His wife for sure knows what's going on, but I'm not sure about his other friends (our kids go to the same school so I actually see him more then most of his friends).

I understand that sometimes depressed people neglect chores in their life, should I ask his wife if there's anything I could help him/them with?

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[–] [email protected] 5 points 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago)

I'd also say this is the correct approach. Start by just being there for him. I wouldn't pressure depressed people. They might already be stressed anyways. That might extend to just accepting an invitation. Or it might not, that is different for everyone.

But giving him some small things he can enjoy might be a start. Company, maybe food, or something to escape the current situation. I like to ride the bicycle to clear my mind. But it's not really the season for that right now, if you live on the northern hemisphere.