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That's the thing though. I do want to pursue it but it wouldn't be fair to either of us. She wants to get married soon, I don't. She wants kids, I'm a maybe. And the biggest one is she needs to marry a Christian.
The religion thing can sometimes work out, but kids is utterly non negotiable. Somebody will end up miserable and resentful. Until you can absolutely say which side of the fence you fall on, something serious cannot be on the table.
Yup and I mentioned it in passing. Which is why I think it's not worth pursuing this. 😩
I suggest talking about it with her.
Family pressure will evaporate when they see how happy she is. :)