I didn't know that would be offensive. I really didn't. I thought my comment was inclusive to everyone. Can anyone tell me how to be more tactful with my words in the future?

I have very good friends who identify as their true selves in so many ways and I love them all dearly. It would crush me if I don't learn something from this. To me, a is part of the category I was attempting to include.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 year ago (2 children)

To me, a is part of the category I was attempting to include

I could be wrong (and I hope @[email protected] will correct me if I am), but I don't think "a" is a category. I think they were simulating a stutter. The "a- and ppl" is (I think) meant to be pausing and restarting the word "and" halfway through.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago (3 children)

I thought it was short for asexual :-/ still learning new things

[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

As an Asexual, can confirm, they're just making a joke with a text based stutter, not referring to Asexual or Agender, such as in "LGBTQIA+" that generally refers to multiple things under the "A".

In the latter case, it's left open ended for inclusivity, rather than arbitrarily excluding other things by specifying.

As for how the original comment could possibly be more inclusive, it's harder to say exactly, but I can think of something like "Ladies, Gentlemen, and everyone else", but I'm not exactly great at fancy words... or words in general... but I try my best.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Asexual usually gets shortened to "ace" I believe.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago

Ace is the term I'm familiar with, too. I just didn't want to be left in the dark if there was an even more abbreviated version of the abbreviation.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

sjdhfjd yes this. i was trying to be cute >\\\<;

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

Yeah being cute was how I interpreted it. Thanks for the clarification.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

hii, dont worry. it happens. i didn't mean to come accross judgemental. i just want to create a little awareness.

i wrote a long ass comment as a kind of guide on how to include everyone. if u want to check that out: https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/comment/4367955

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

Probably "third people" is an appropriate term. Like, in the cold war, there was "first" world and "second" world (not discussing which is which), but then there were bystanding parties not participating in the conflict. They used to be called "third world countries". Happy to help