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It’s not creepy or anything, but personally I’d prefer a more relaxed vibe like a bbq or a couple of evening drinks. Just make sure the invite is super casual, like “hey it’d be great to get to know you guys over a tea or coffee whenever you’ve settled” and then invite them again in 2-3 weeks or something.
My thought was that I didn't want to just assume they drink, and also a bbq seems way more effort and therefore more pressure, but yeah I think you're right about framing it as a "when you're settled" thing, thanks.
I'm just overexcited cos I've lived here for ten years and managed to get to know like one person in the entire town outside of my partner's family 😅
I can't think of an occasion where it would be socially wrong to invite someone round for a cup of tea - but don't ask me since I'm not not socially awkward.
My old neighbour tells me that the person who moved into our last house has been known to chase neighbours down the street to insist they come in for a cup of tea. So I think there is a line here where it can become socially awkward.