I got a report on one of my posts, It was for the mods of lemmy.ml letting them know that porn was popping up on .ml. I went and checked lemmy.ml's instances and we are now in the blocked list. I know they had a number of large communities so this is just a heads up to everyone who may have been subbed to any.
Engaging is fine. They are right about a lot of people not wanting to see furry porn on All. its the hostility of how they started that irked me. I would have been more than happy to have a conversation with them about it.
Also as someone who moderates a few communities here as well I agree with a lot of what you said.