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They work in retail and where I live it's considered inappropriate for a customer to hit on someone who works in retail. I only know them from where they use to work and I had a chance to ask them out then but I fucked up thinking I shouldn't ask right away and instead wait to go back. Then I never saw them again until they started working at a different store - both dispensaries.
They're never alone at work and I still don't think I should say anything cause technically its their job to be nice to me anyways.
If you know them previously, then you aren't inappropriate to ask them out. Just give em a card with your number on it and leave it to them to reach out if they want to.
yeah the problem is now I'd have to do that in front of several people they work with. So like, this would either be embarrassing for them in front of their coworkers, or for me, or for both of us.
Slip them your number on a note on top of cash for your purchase?
I do have my number and name on a piece of paper in my wallet but it's been forever since I've gone there and they actually waited on me. They're a budtender and dispensaries have interesting set ups where I live. They don't really let you walk around and shop. Someone immediately greets you and then that's your budtender and they do their best to try and not let your attention go elsewhere. Like if I even look away for a second at any dispensary, the budtender will say something to get my attention again.
It's an interesting form of customer service that I don't see anywhere else. They're also working for tips and are known for being flirty. The missed connections page where I live has loads of people who have a crush on their budtender. So like, its really common and frowned upon.
Also interesting- I notice that person tries to talk to me more when they're not waiting on me. And their coworkers are still doing the thing to keep my attention away. It's caused a lot awkward interactions unfortunately.