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[he/him] I'm sorry if this is the wrong place to ask; I wanted to post in an active, trans people-focused community where I'd get answers that were for sure going to lead to a place that align with my values. Feel free to delete this but please explain to me if it's offensive so I can correct my behavior going forward.

I see myself as an ally but unfortunately I don't have any trans friends that I can talk to. I've worked with and been in therapy with a few before, along with reading quite a bit online in places like here, so I'm not completely oblivious about what's going on.

One of the main things I feel I'm missing is the full vocabulary I should have in 2023. Example: I saw a post the other day either on this instance or hexbear mentioning "chasers" and had to pour through the thread to find out what that meant. I feel like an important part of advocating for trans rights as a cis person is knowing what's offensive so if I run into it I can call it out or I don't do something by accident out of ignorance. In the end I found out it was something I already knew was wrong but didn't have a name for it.

I'm sorry if this sounds stupid in the end but all of us have to start learning somewhere, right? I guess I'm looking for a place where people would assume you're asking in good faith but be open to questions coming from ignorance (not intolerance).

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[โ€“] [email protected] 12 points 1 year ago (1 children)

There is [email protected]. Those of us who watch the local feed will see it.

There's also not so many posts in most communities that you need separate spaces to ask questions. So any community related to the question should be fine. [email protected] is probably the most general one here.

[โ€“] UnlimitedRumination 1 points 1 year ago

Oh weird, I even typed "ask" into the community search and must have missed it anyway.

Awesome, thank you!