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There have been a few places that have felt forced to triple their security protocols because they didn't like me enough to fear me coming back. There was a game corner that required ID's, there have been Discord servers that required you give them your socials, there are places that have exiled my whole family, etc. and it usually bugs people. Ironically I've never circumvented a ban before in my life, but they still feel the need to make sure.
No, I'm not pulling your leg, I have saved links to show for it.
My dude, what have you been doing?
Mostly misunderstandings/miscommunications. Not something like I did a certain thing every time, just a domino kind of thing, otherwise I'd understand a lot more about what exactly is going on. The ease at which people have been able to point to something and say "_____ is why you're banned" kind of scares me into thinking something deeper is going on. That isn't to say I can't map out their supposed reasoning, like with the examples I gave elsewhere in this reply chain. Ironically and oddly I do get unbanned from half of the affected places, like this famous one where I was basically Jesused back onto the world's strictest website.
Holy shit, this is some massive turbo yikes.
How so?
I'm not gonna take responsibility and try to be your wake up call or anything, but this:
This thought would normally cause someone to be introspective. "What is it about oneself which is causing me to get banned?". "Something deeper is probably going on" internally.
For the record, I've only ever been banned once in my life for something I've done or said, and that was 15 years ago. There are ways to say and do things which won't get you banned. I've been on many forums and participated in many subreddits. I've even moderated before. The fact that you have a written down online code of honor/ruleset (regardless of its contents) is a red flag.
On the contrary. I wrote an online code (I assume these are what you meant) due to the conflicts implying a war of unspoken rules. One would have reason to believe the rules are instinctive, and I wrote them as a kind of commentary that amounts to "where are these followed".
The question I was asked in the first place was kind of a loaded question, and I was trying to answer it the best I could without calling them out on that. Asking "what have you been doing" implies it's the same everywhere. For example, this is why I've been semi-banned from DeviantArt, which is very different from the Tumblr situation. It's not impossible that someone is removed from several places in a repetitive fashion, especially when there's a large number of people trying to perpetuate the effect (I did already point to this). Currently the only site I've been completely banned from without relent is Inkblot as explained in this comment chain. A mass raid, being attacked, friends of mine being judged for associating... at what point can I not call it karmic?
In the end, you could sum it up with the prevalence of unspoken rules.