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[–] [email protected] 15 points 1 year ago (5 children)

Homie, this is quite a bad take particularly in the face of the article in question. One of the biggest things the author was talking about wasn't quantity of relationships, but quality of relationships. Having first conversations with 50 odd men is not going to produce a quality relationship in which you can talk about significant worries in life, or work through feelings that are causing distress.

[–] Ironfist -2 points 1 year ago (4 children)

but they dont get messages from only 50 year old men, do they? they get messages from a full spectrum of men. The only thing left to do is to choose. When you get to choose and if you know what to look for, you end up finding quality. When you dont get to choose, you either settle down or end up alone. Its offer and demand.

[–] [email protected] 11 points 1 year ago (1 children)

This article isn't talking about romantic relationships. It's talking about intimate platonic friendships and how as a man the author found those platonic relationships to be shallower than before he transitioned. This has nothing to do with online dating.

[–] Ironfist 2 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

I know and I agree with what the article says about friendships, I'm just adding that dating also contributes to the feeling of loneliness as a whole.

edit: grammar

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