Men's Liberation
This community is first and foremost a feminist community for men and masc people, but it is also a place to talk about men’s issues with a particular focus on intersectionality.
Rules
Everybody is welcome, but this is primarily a space for men and masc people
Non-masculine perspectives are incredibly important in making sure that the lived experiences of others are present in discussions on masculinity, but please remember that this is a space to discuss issues pertaining to men and masc individuals. Be kind, open-minded, and take care that you aren't talking over men expressing their own lived experiences.
Be productive
Be proactive in forming a productive discussion. Constructive criticism of our community is fine, but if you mainly criticize feminism or other people's efforts to solve gender issues, your post/comment will be removed.
Keep the following guidelines in mind when posting:
- Build upon the OP
- Discuss concepts rather than semantics
- No low effort comments
- No personal attacks
Assume good faith
Do not call other submitters' personal experiences into question.
No bigotry
Slurs, hate speech, and negative stereotyping towards marginalized groups will not be tolerated.
No brigading
Do not participate if you have been linked to this discussion from elsewhere. Similarly, links to elsewhere on the threadiverse must promote constructive discussion of men’s issues.
Recommended Reading
- The Will To Change: Men, Masculinity, And Love by bell hooks
- Politics of Masculinities: Men in Movements by Michael Messner
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There you go guys; if you don't intentionally harm your peers, you're just a crab!
Sigh. I know I went a wee bit overboard, but I can't stand incel mentality. But still, bludgeoning him with words was clearly a failure on my part.
Anybody have advice on better approach to that side? I'm all ears...
David McRaney has some really good content on this topic. I recommend listening to his podcast episode called How Minds Change, about deep canvasing. He has a whole book by the same name, if you want to read more about it.
Edit: I should summarise the key points I've taken from consuming his content:
Having said all that, it's best in 1 to 1 conversations. Not sure how effective you can be on the internet, but I do think it's best to try to show understanding of other peoples views and steel man their arguments (opposite of straw man) while sharing your own views.
Thank you for the reminder. A few months back there was an article posted that made the argument that acting with compassion, as challenging as that might seem at times, is truly the only tactic that has been proven in any way effective.
Clearly, I did not keep that in mind.