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Some people don't like to consider the fact that being a completely functional human being as per standard imaginary standards is hard work. So hard that few can actually make it work.
Most people don't fit the standard. We are incomplete. And the parts that are missing get filled with vices of ever increasing atrocity.
The saying that "everyone's got something to hide" is correct and what we try to hide are our failings.
So to answer your question, most people can barely take care of themselves. If you can't cope with yourself, what incentive would anyone have to take on your burden and possibly be crippled by its weight in the process?
People come together to share each other's burdens, to form a sturdy bridge that can ease their suffering. But this implies that both sides have a foundation to stand on. Instead of you have just one leg of the bridge carrying all the weight, it's bound to come down without a doubt.
So you need to find your foundation or build one. Have something to stand on then seek out groups for mutual aid. There you will help each other to improve and reduce the hole that's making you feel incomplete.
Now about parenthood. It's exhausting. Not everyone is cut out for it. It takes time, energy and money for years on end. It can destroy a person mentally and physically.
I don't know you nor your parents, but from your words, they aren't all that much better than yourself. Only anger found its way into filling some of that hole that plagues us all. They might have each other for support, but if either of them falls, the other will crash soon after. So don't begrudge them too much, they're as human as you are.
Living ain't easy. Not one bit. But the rewards are evident in those we envy.