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I have 3 passports and am living in my 4th country starting from scratch every time, AMA (piefed.jeena.net)
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[–] [email protected] 7 points 4 days ago (1 children)

I saw an earlier answer where you said one of the hardest things in changing countries is making new friends as an adult. Do you have any advice for making friends in new countries? Generally I hear that you should find a group or club to join. Is there any types of activities that you find especial|y good for making friends?

[–] [email protected] 8 points 4 days ago (1 children)

First thing is to learn the language. Even if everyone speaks English very well they still need to concentrate more and can't be as relaxed as when they speak their local language. Therefore they will avoid you and you will not make deep connections.

Then if any way possible let someone introduce you to their friend group. This makes it much easier the new people to trust you and be open to you because they trust the other person.

Stay in contact with coworkers who switch jobs. Those can become real friends because they invest in your relationship and don't just see you at work anyway.

I personally never got any friends from clubs or groups.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 4 days ago (1 children)

Oh as for activities, private parties are the best, you can host some yourself but make sure the first one is a banger and many people come so the next one will be Mich easier.

To deepen it once you know some people board game evenings, etc.

If you have children go to the playground with them, there are many other moms and dads who are desperate to talk to adults every once in a while. Invite them over to your house as a family.

If you have a boy/girlfriend in the new country, make friends with their friends and friends of friends and family members.

Language learning course will give you contact with other foreigners, some of them are probably cool.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 4 days ago

Thanks for the detailed answer! That's honestly some of the best advice I've gotten on the subject. I'll definitely be saving this comment!