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This is the truth. The pandemic really messed up my house because we stopped cleaning when people stopped coming over, and now it is so bad that we still don't have people coming over. Add to that having a kid who doesn't want to ever get rid of any of her old toys, and 2 parents trying hard to not let depression win... I don't think we'll ever have a clean house again.
Do it for her then. I purge and donate my childβs toys every couple of months. It would be chaos otherwise.
wow, I can't imagine randomly losing your possibly favorite toys every couple of months would have any sort of effect on a person when they become an adult. How many toys are you buying your kids throughout the year?!? Just get them proper storage and explain to them their items need to fit into it (shelves, toy chests. etc). Let them decide which items when it gets too much, you're gonna have a hoarder on your hands when they get older if they always fear losing their items or never learn to let go of things they don't need anymore.
Our kid is kinda spoiled and also needs her stuff purged every now and then. It's pretty easy to tell which toys she cherishes and which ones have been sitting in pieces in the bottom of a tub for the last 6 months. I'm sure most people that do this will get their kid involved in the process. Hoarding can also lead to lasting effects as an adult. Imagine what their friends and classmates think about the clutter when they see or hear about it.
Ok let me ask my two year old what he thinks. He responds very well to reason.
That's.... how children learn?
I will encourage ya to try making the effort wherever and whenever you can. Even just five minutes today can save half an hour weeks down the line.
I've a friend from high school whose parents are disabled and struggle with keeping up with the routine chores, and she herself suffers from bad depression and executive dysfunction.
Their house is in such a state now that we'd need to get our entire friend group up there to spend multiple days across multiple weeks to get it cleaned, organized, and fixed up. Flies everywhere, food rotting in the fridges, pet hair and dust everywhere, the works. It'll be doable, but it's gonna be a whole thing we gotta do.
Hope I'm not shaming ya here, I promise that ain't my intent here - just hoping that our situation can inspire somebody else to prevent themselves ending up in the same spot.
If you have the means, I highly suggest hiring a cleaner to help out. You can find them relatively cheap, under $100.