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The whole idea that it would be a demand is baffling to me.
Nope. It's the same way as people might think someone looks happy, we just look at faces and try to interpret their emotions. And some people's faces set off the "looks angry" assumption.
Taking the stance that someone else is a predator based on how they look and you might be their prey. And not only that, saying that aloud to them. Can be pretty damn insulting.
-The comic literally states that he should smile more and that is a demand on how he should be. If he wanted to smile he would.
-The angry face is a thing that I acknowledged and agreed with, and said I had experience with in my first comment. Please re-read for better comprehension.
-My sentence"...even if just in passing" implies the inclusion of someone who you may not otherwise interact with. Strangers who talk to you are inherently in a more intimate category than strangers who don't talk/interact to you.
-Saying that the people in the situations given are in positions akin to predator and prey is an apt analogy. It is not saying someone turns into a bear and the other a fish. There are many shifts of power during conversations and not acknowledging the natural and situational power dynamics does everyone a disservice.
I never once said that someone's looks were the reason they were the predator/prey in a situation.
"If you like X you should visit Y, you'd probably really like it"
"How dare you demand I visit Y!"
LOL