my take is just that we should stop caring so much about the precise details of people's identity and treat it like food preferences: if it becomes relevant we try to explain it in as much detail as is needed, and people we interact with a lot will probably have a good understanding of it.

The comparison to language is actually quite apt since language has the same problem of people insisting it be grouped into neat boxes, when in reality every person basically speaks a unique language that may well vary from time to time.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 months ago

I'm with you on the first half of this; the second half isn't bad - just never thought of it like that

Anyway, yes, your sexuality and gender ID in my eyes is similar to a food preference/allergy. If I need to know, please tell me! I might have some questions about it so I can adequately manage our interactions without feeding you peanuts, but other than that, you do you. Similarly, I very much hope you have a bit of patience; I don't often deal with people that have allergies, so while I'm trying to be sensitive to them, I might fuck up.