This is amazing, I genuinely teared up. Thank you so much, everyone.

A bit of context: I'm AuDHD and non binary and sadly I already have so much medical PTSD, both from physical doctors and from psychiatrists and mental health professionals. Some didn't listen, some attributed everything to anxiety, from some I suffered actual conversion therapy. I've been told so many times by so many doctors that my pain was not real and it was all in my head. I had to diagnose myself with AuDHD because no one ever recognized it, and I found a psychotherapist who has hEDS and suggested I might be hypermobile. I risked ending up in a mental health hospital more than once for stuff I did not have because I wasn't diagnosed with Autism and ADHD. I also have extreme social anxiety and if I do go to a doctor, I just can't remember anything about the stuff they ask and afterwards I forget what they tell me, so it ends up being completely useless.

That said, I appreciate all of the answers so much, and I think I will try and look for a doctor who isn't an idiot and at least knows what transgender means, but first I need to understand more about the syndromes and which ones I have so I don't get screwed, so if you have resources (even more technical ones) I'd love to look at them.

Thank you thank you thank you. I feel less alone.