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Very well-stated (& calm) response to what is turning into a heated discussion about users on the hexbear.net instance (lemmy.one)

submitted 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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[–] [email protected] 7 points 2 months ago (2 children)

I wouldn't put it so aggressively, but I stopped arguing with one of them recently, because I realized that I was punching down. I'm not going to try and diagnose, but some sort of neurodivergence that leads to hyperfocusing on irrelevant details, and black and white thinking.

I don't think the answer is insulting them, that just validates their ingroup/outgroup mentality. The best thing to do is to just encourage them to keep on trying to improve themselves, and try to work on their maturity for when they become adults.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 months ago

If they can learn more to live in the world, like to have discussions politely, then they can learn much over the years.

While if they must remain constrained to the spaces that will tolerate them... then they may, probably even, not.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 months ago

Hot take: sometimes it's okay to punch down.