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[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago (1 children)

The urgency was because they wouldn’t let us book her in for surgery without us having the means to get the medication afterwards.

At the very least it’s very volatile and when she doesn’t get the support she needs or wants from me she’s very quick to turn things but it’s not helped by me injecting myself into it by telling her how stressed I am about the whole thing.

Part of the strain comes from that we haven’t seen each other in 3 years. I’m not allowed as a visitor because of her cancer treatment and recovery and the ward she is in at the hospital which doesn’t allow for visitors.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

What hospital is she in that doesn't allow visitors?

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Alfred hospital Oncology ward

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago (1 children)

That's pretty tough going. I hate saying this I really do but have you rang the oncology ward and asked to speak to someone about your partner because 3 years in a hospital without visitors seems a little far fetched. I'm really sorry to say that because I like you but something doesn't add up. I hope I'm wrong.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I have rung the hospital in the past about visitors into that ward but they don’t allow visitors into there.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Have you ever specifically asked if your partner is there and asked how she's doing recently?

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago (1 children)

No. I didn’t think to ask at the time.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago

I think you should call the landline phone at the hospitals oncology ward tomorrow and ask to speak to someone who is in charge of your partner because you're worried about her mental health.