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I actually wanted to try an epilator too but I'm pretty scared... I've got 4 massive surgery scars on one of my legs and I'm scared that I'll somehow fuck something up (surgery was like 7 years ago but the scars don't go away)
And waxing makes me get more razor burns than a razor funnily enough
I think you'll be fine. I'm covered in scars and epilate no problem, but admittedly they're not huge. FWIW, I find epilators weirdly relaxing but I'm weird.
I should have probably mentioned that the stitch points and some areas of the scars are visibly bulging out a little, which is why I'm so worried...
not going to lie, it hurt a lot the first time... but everytime i redo my arms, it hurts less, though i have to also admit i miss the pain a little ^^'
i think those scars ought to be fine .. if in doubt, use tweezers near them instead, takes longer, hurts less, but eventually the regrowing hair will become thinner, a little, and then you can just use the epilator there too... i do it like moving the device into the hairs along the skin untill it hurts, then i pull back and lift off so it doesnt touch any more, repeat. also make sure the hair you epilate isnt to long, the longer it is the more likely it snaps, instead of being ripped out :3