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Whats your take? Creepy or not? (sh.itjust.works)

submitted 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago) by Steamymoomilk to c/[email protected]

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I recently conmented on a meme with a little personal experience and would like to know what you fine peoples take is?

Thanks!

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[–] [email protected] 21 points 3 weeks ago (15 children)

"Anon's" opinion on whether it's creepy or not counts for absolutely nothing.

Again, it wasn't a social cue and "anon" didn't miss it - girl directly expressed her opinion and instead of accepting it, "anon" argued against it, then ignored it That's not only creepy, but borderline abusive.

[–] Steamymoomilk -2 points 3 weeks ago (13 children)

I believe the context for your query was that i missed a social que. However within context, she found it creepy i "stalked" her. To which i clarified it was not my intent to stalk or be creepy but was simply just being friendly, as i do with all my friends regardless of sex.

[–] [email protected] 23 points 3 weeks ago (4 children)

If someone thinks you're stalking them, that's a 100% full on red traffic light that they don't want to continue contact with you and you need to leave them alone. Simple as that. You don't get to debate or negotiate.

"Let's be friends," is a polite way of declining romantic interest. She is clearly not treating this as a friendly relationship as her comments about you indicate that she didn't want to continue contact with you.

[–] Steamymoomilk 7 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

But why would a person say "lets be friend's" if they didnt want to see you at all, i understand politeness but its objectively misleading

[–] [email protected] 13 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

For some people it feels easier to give a 'soft' rejection, and 'let you down easy'. People also believe that a soft rejection may help to temper potential violent male responses to being rejected romantically.

It is misleading when taken literally, and needs to be understood in combination with other social cues. (Does this person show continuing effort to develop a friendship? Do they ever reach out first? Does the dynamic feel one-sided? Do they subsequently make more negative comments that express a disinterest in continuing the friendship or 'let you down' further?)