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Whats your take? Creepy or not? (sh.itjust.works)
submitted 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) by Steamymoomilk to c/[email protected]
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I recently conmented on a meme with a little personal experience and would like to know what you fine peoples take is?

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[–] [email protected] 23 points 3 months ago (2 children)

If someone thinks you're stalking them, that's a 100% full on red traffic light that they don't want to continue contact with you and you need to leave them alone. Simple as that. You don't get to debate or negotiate.

"Let's be friends," is a polite way of declining romantic interest. She is clearly not treating this as a friendly relationship as her comments about you indicate that she didn't want to continue contact with you.

[–] Steamymoomilk 7 points 3 months ago (1 children)

But why would a person say "lets be friend's" if they didnt want to see you at all, i understand politeness but its objectively misleading

[–] [email protected] 13 points 3 months ago (1 children)

For some people it feels easier to give a 'soft' rejection, and 'let you down easy'. People also believe that a soft rejection may help to temper potential violent male responses to being rejected romantically.

It is misleading when taken literally, and needs to be understood in combination with other social cues. (Does this person show continuing effort to develop a friendship? Do they ever reach out first? Does the dynamic feel one-sided? Do they subsequently make more negative comments that express a disinterest in continuing the friendship or 'let you down' further?)

[–] Steamymoomilk 10 points 3 months ago

Yeah i may have missed that :/ I took it literally Well...

[–] [email protected] -2 points 3 months ago

Thank you for actually having a nice, insightful thing to say :3 very nice change of pace from just being called a creepy stalker for not understanding the lies of people with allism