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This is a place to share greentexts and witness the confounding life of Anon. If you're new to the Greentext community, think of it as a sort of zoo with Anon as the main attraction.

Be warned:

Anon is often crazy.
Anon is often depressed.
Anon frequently shares thoughts that are immature, offensive, or incomprehensible.

If you find yourself getting angry (or god forbid, agreeing) with something Anon has said, you might be doing it wrong.

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Anon doesn't know what she's doing wrong (sh.itjust.works)

submitted 2 months ago by Early_To_Risa to c/greentext

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[–] [email protected] 237 points 2 months ago (27 children)

In the unlikely event a woman reads this.

We are stupid creatures. Be direct. I reiterate, we are stupid. Or scared of being labeled a creep. Same result.

So, be direct.

[–] [email protected] 59 points 2 months ago (5 children)

Not sure if stupid is the word I’d use, but we tend not to pick up on subtlety very well.

Paraphrasing from memory a comment I saw in a similar thread on a different site:

What’s subtle to you is entirely invisible to him
What’s obvious to you is still mostly invisible to him
What’s embarrassingly obvious to you is just starting to become subtle and therefore potentially noticeable to him

We don’t have nearly as much practice on picking up subtlety, and many of us are well aware of the potential blowback of perceiving interest and acting on it (“ew gross i’m just being nice you creep”).

We aren’t mind readers. Frankly, if I was a mindreader, I wouldn’t be hanging out on Lemmy. I’d be hanging out in the casino at the poker tables.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 2 months ago (1 children)

Obtuse is the word you're looking for

[–] [email protected] 5 points 2 months ago

What acute answer.

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