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Ugh. Mr Peeler has yet another speeding fine. I pay his rego, insurance, give him petrol money each week so he can at least pick up the kids from school, I paid his last (how many!) fines because he didn't even ring up to arrange instalments.. I just can't even. I get that he's dyslexic etc. But fucking hell! I'm not paying this one, fuck it. I'm working hard and trying to save so we can have things and he's just pissing around. The other day he was late picking up the kids because he just "popped in" to a mate's place in the afternoon and "had a whiskey," then found himself stuck in traffic. Wtf is he even doing drinking before picking up the kids?! I'm fucking relying on this fuck!
Just getting it out of me before I get home or it'll come out in an angry rush which will in turn make him angry, defensive or both, and the kids will be right there exposed to it all. Thanks for listening.
Maybe Mr Peeler will learn when he has to cycle everywhere.
None of my business of course, but the relationship seems a bit unbalanced? You seem to be covering his expenses (and his arse)...what does he contribute, is he working? I used to be the major breadwinner in our 24 year relationship, but things took a turn about 10 years ago and, because of things, now I'm not. There's not a day when I don't think about that, and I do everything I can to be a worthy contributor to the household even if not financially.
No offense, I like and respect you, but you may need to have a verbal smackdown with old mate. It's hard because he's dad too, but yeah, he needs to pull his head in. Apologies for the tone. 💜 💜
Mr Peeler better like sleeping on the couch or better yet, outside because this is some bullshit. Being dyslexic or whatever isn't an excuse for the shitty behaviour he is displaying. And drinking before picking up the kids? Absolutely fuck that noise. He needs a good kick up the arse. If you don't do it, he's going to continue to behave irresponsibly. Don't vent to us to get it out so you're calmer when you get home. You need to unleash hell on him and set some boundaries because right now he is walking all over you. Sorry to be harsh but I just hate seeing good people get treated like shit.
You're a very patient person. More patient than me.
Yikes. I don't know the whole context but he needs to take some responsibility and accountability here from what you've described.
Damn, I remember when you mentioned the last one you had to pay.
Not to really add any more to what everyone else has already said but he mustn’t have many demerit points left either?
I hope he realises what this is doing to your household and what would happen if he gets his license suspended?
Fuck. I'm so sorry you have to put up with this crap. You could potentiaaly think about seeing a relationsip counsellor or mediator. You need to be heard and his disrespect toward you needs to stop.