Off My Chest
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I've tried it and I can't seem to phrase it politely enough that it doesn't upset them (and boy can they get upset) but also firmly enough for them to actually listen. Kinda think I'm gonna try blurring my friends' faces so they can't tell me how beautiful they are anymore.
All the more reason to do it. Establish boundaries and make clear that their behavior is inappropriate. Getting offended by having that behavior called-out is borderline abusive.
Dude, sorry about your parents. I see 3 options here...go no contact, assert boundaries that condition contact on their behavior, or do nothing and let them keep acting like this. There may be other options I don't see, but it's important to recognize they're probably going to act like this for the rest of your life, so it'll be best to be intentional about how you interact with them. They sound like the kind of people who'd try to interfere/fuck up your relationships if they don't like who you're with, and it sounds like they're going to be really good at finding fault. A therapist could help you unpack all their bullshit and figure out how best to communicate with them