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[–] [email protected] 8 points 5 months ago (1 children)

I remember when I needed the constant validation of getting sex from women in order to feel like a winner. Then I stopped being 20 years old.

[–] [email protected] 17 points 5 months ago (1 children)

I don't think it's validation in the sense we normies felt. For regular, sane men it's more of a fitting in and being desirable kind of validation, women do the same in that age.

For him and other powerful people (but also some regular men) it's a power thing. Many powerful people are narcissists, and they live constantly under the dissonance of illusion of grandeur and inferiority complex. Essentially forcing their will onto others is a way to mitigate the latter.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 5 months ago (1 children)

Sure but that’s still validation right? “I’m powerful because I can get people to do what I want them to do”.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 5 months ago

It's the same phenomenon, but most people age out of it.

To paraphrase Bojack Horseman: you stop maturing emotionally as soon as you no longer feel that you need to depend on other people.

Or, to quote Ron Howard: "It's Arrested Development"