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[โ€“] [email protected] 15 points 2 months ago (1 children)

One person isn't the whole. They may just want to vent and aren't wanting solutions. While that may be frustrating to you, it can be just as frustrating to your SO to want to vent and get solutions they don't want

Of course I'm just some rando online I don't know your relationship. I have a BA in Human Communication and this is just one of the most common arguments that happens in relationships

[โ€“] [email protected] 6 points 2 months ago

And that's okay, but that's not what has been described here. Being the vent ear is cool too, the point where it gets frustrating is when their vent method is to just be completely exhausted and lie down in the sofa until tomorrow when they get exhausted again and repeat... I have to force down some healthier avenues for them to vent and prepare themselves so that they don't get perma exhausted in work, it just takes some work and some guessing of what they need from my part, because they sure don't communicate when tired.