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[–] [email protected] 1 points 5 months ago (1 children)

Even if a statement is truthful, it can be demeaning and misleading.

“Ripping a puppy’s guts out is a very bad thing - so take it under advisement that you should not do that.”

That’s a ridiculous statement that says something truthful and slyly forms the expectation of blame for an issue on a person. Many men have been violent to women - and many whites have oppressed black people. But twisting the wording to generalizing the group makes people feel like it’s directed personally, and forms a psychological barrier to any response.

You’re even doing it in this comment about “wrong side of history” - I’ve done nothing to discourage women being vocal about their safety problems; just the pushing of blame to a group that’s too broad, especially since men need to be in that conversation about stopping sexual violence and encouraging safer spaces if we want actual change.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 5 months ago

I’ve done nothing to discourage women being vocal about their safety problems

By participating in this conversation and telling women how best to express their experiences the moment they speak up, like it or not, you are doing precisely that.