The original post: /r/amitheasshole by /u/Aware-Surprise-4483 on 2025-04-17 01:44:15.

I (21F) am planning to go on a trip to Disney soon in a few months and my mom doesn’t want me to go alone and wants me to go with someone. I have planned to go with my sister (20F) But she had let me know her Aunt has passed and could not come to which I’m fine with.

My sister agrees I should go by myself as I could have lots of fun without being tied down to anyone the whole week but I am worried if I go by myself my mom would probably be pissed even after I place boundaries down and let her know I will contact her regularly while I’m there. She has repeatedly made multiple attempts to make me reschedule but I have had my mind set on this for a while and I will not change the dates regardless of what she tells me.

How can I talk and express to her I would feel a lot better by myself on this trip to try new things and explore myself without having to feel like an AH and just going without a word?

(My sister is my half sister, we share the same dad but different moms)

The original post: /r/amitheasshole by /u/Virtual_Row_6710 on 2025-04-16 21:23:45.

I (31 M) live in a 2 bedroom apt in NYC. I’ve worked hard for all that I’ve earned and chose to move into a 2 bedroom to finally get an office space and guest bedroom. My brother (28 M) has dealt with mental health issues for the past few years. He says it’s the reason he quit his job in July 2023 (prior to this, he’s often struggled holding down a job since we were teenagers). Since then he said he’s going to go into business for himself because he doesn’t want to work for anyone.

Fast forward to May 2024, he blew through his savings and moved in with my mom. In October 2024, my mom decided to downsize, which meant my brother had nowhere to go, so I let my brother move in with me. My brother ensured me that he was looking for a new job and was going to save up and would likely only need a few months. Since I moved into my 2 bedroom and could afford rent without help, I told my brother he could stay until May, rent free, in order to save up more and find his footing.

Thankfully my brother was able to find a remote job pretty quickly, and he started saving up. However, I noticed that he was not really put in that much effort into his job or spending his money that wisely. I raised this with him and he said he hates the job and is hoping to find a new one soon, and agreed with me that he could be spending his money more wisely. As soon as he said this about his job, I knew things were going to get bad soon. Lo and behold, he got fired within 3 months. He said he doesn’t regret losing the job because he hated it and he doesn’t like what it was doing to his mental health. That really rubbed me the wrong way because I’ve been letting him live with me rent free, putting off plans for my apartment, with the hopes that he was getting his stuff together.

He’s been looking for a job, but as you all know, the job market sucks so it’s been taking awhile.

WIBTA (edited, sorry I’m new here) if I still make him leave next month even if he doesn’t have a job secured (but has some savings)? I love my brother and feel for his mental health struggles, but part of me is so upset that he lost his job because he just didn’t put in much effort, and it feels like he takes for granted that he is living rent free on my dime.

The original post: /r/amitheasshole by /u/SpaceCowgirl935 on 2025-04-16 20:13:34.

Me (F24) and my wife (F25) were discussing the prospect of having kids sometime in this distant future just for fun, we both agreed that we’d both enjoy a little bundle of joy down the line and we started discussing what their name would possibly be. We thought of a few names but then we both settled on the name Arthur if they were a boy. This was just a fun little discussion we had with no serious implications but we both agreed that Arthur sounded like a good name and that we should put a pin in it for later down the line.

So every few weeks I like to have lunch with my mother who lives about an hour away. We were discussing the usual stuff like politics, my wife, and my job. Then the reoccurring question of “do you think you and your wife are gonna have kids any time soon?” I said “not soon but we’ve been talking about it a little bit and we really like the name Arthur if it’s a boy” my mother said that we couldn’t name our kid Arthur because my grandma’s sister’s abusive dead husband was named Arthur.

Now for context, I am lucky enough to have two sets of grandparents, one pair live in town with me and the other lives about 2 hours away so I’m not particularly close with them. This abusive husband is from the pair who lives 2 hours away who I’m not as close with.

So I said “I feel like grandma’s sister’s dead husband is far enough removed for me to “reuse” the name”. My mother said no and that was final.

We finished up lunch and I headed home. I later received a text message from my mom saying “do not name your kid Arthur I am serious on the matter your grandma might never recover.” I texted back that “it’s my kid and I won’t let a dead husband of a relative I’ve never met dictate the name, also I’m not planning on having kids soon so just drop it”

My mother left me on read and hasn’t texted me back. I feel like I’m in the right here and it’s not that deep of an issue but I gotta ask Am I the asshole?

The original post: /r/amitheasshole by /u/foodfuckflee on 2025-04-15 20:46:11.

I live with 2 other girls in a 3bhk, which is owned by my parents. I've known these girls since college and we're all close. They both pay rent directly to my parents but we don't have a formal agreement in place because we've always been chill.

Last wednesday one of my friends (sofia) asked if a colleague of hers (let's call her ava) can stay with us for a few weeks as she's running short on cash and her parents live a few hours away, and she needs a place to stay, we agreed that she can stay and only pay for utilities and no rent is required as such.

Now us girls (3 of us) usually stay in on Saturday night and drink/smoke watch a couple of movies, the basic stuff. Ava asked to join in, we said sure no problem, didn't even ask for any contribution for food/drinks etc., but she got super drunk, we got her to sofia's bed to sleep it off and came back to the living room.

In the meantime apparently she didn't sleep and called her parents crying over everything that has been happening in her life, her parents got very angry that she consumed alcohol (we didn't know they were conservative) and asked to speak the 'sl*ts' she was living with and ava handed over the phone to sofia.

They called her a bunch of names including a sl*t, someone who should be ashamed of being a woman because she drinks, she'll go to hell, that she brings disgrace to her parents and stuff like that. They also said that as long as ava is living here we have to 'behave' and not try to spoil their daughter, which also means no alcohol or boys or anything (the level of entitlement).

Soph started crying post that, given that both her parents are highly orthodox as well and condemn her life choices frequently, maybe that's what soph and ava bonded over idk.

Anyway, next afternoon all 3 of us decided that ava living here wouldn't work out and told her the same, we didn't force her or give a deadline for moving out, just said to find a new place. Not even 10 mins later she came and handed over her phone to sofia to talk to her dad as he was angry and wanted to talk to her. I took the phone from ava and told her dad off, given that we were going to allow her to live here for weeks without even rent and now he's the one to be blamed that his daughter is getting kicked out and I also said a bunch of stuff about his colorful vocabulary the last night and what it says about him as a man.

Ava did move out sunday night and showed up in office on monday, but she has been cold towards sofia and told a bunch of their colleagues that sofia kicked her out. Now I feel maybe I could've helped ava by just shutting up maybe. AITA?

The original post: /r/amitheasshole by /u/sillypotato4 on 2025-04-16 20:33:36.

I 16F and my friend 17F (let’s call her D) have been friends for about 3 years. We are very close and hang out outside of school very frequently. We agreed to meet each other for a couple hours to study for our ap test. For context: every month my parents give me 100-200 dollars on a credit card so I can budget out what i’m going to spend for the month and D has been asking me almost every. single. day if I can get her coffee before school as I go very frequently. I’m going to be honest it does bother me that she asks all the time considering she has a bigger amount of money than me and she could easily just go get one herself before school and she never offers to pay me back. So knowing this, I asked her if she could pay for the food at our hang out since I got her about 5 coffees this month without being payed back. She agreed at first and then said she couldn’t anymore because she needs to buy a different friend a birthday present. I told her that my monthly allowance had run out and that I couldn’t go anymore. She seemed annoyed but I didn’t want to ask if she was upset or bring up that I was upset. I feel like it’s very selfish that she asks me for coffee almost every day but then won’t pay for our most likely 20 dollar meal. She also asks other people for coffee when I say no and I feel really used just because I drive to school and she has a license and a car but her dad drives her.

UPDATE: she reluctantly agreed to pay after I told her I couldn’t go if she wasn’t paying and to answer some questions: the coffees are about 7 dollars each and I do get myself one too when I get her one and to be clear she has had my back in the past and payed for big expensive meals once or twice when I really had no money she hasn’t been asking for the coffees for very long only about a month or so .

The original post: /r/amitheasshole by /u/thatmgirl on 2025-04-16 19:43:48.

My (26f) dad got married a few years ago to Kaylee. They don’t really have the best relationship but to each their own. Kaylee has been trying to get me and my brother to call her a more endearing name. She told us to give her a nickname, and then she suggested we call her “mom”, mind you our mom is very much alive and we have an amazing relationship with her. She then complained to us that when we visit them we seem to only want to spend time with our dad, more than we do with her (they live in a different country). Last night we went to get some coffee and she began to complain that we never want to be with her, and that we don’t love her even though we are her children (her words) I told her we that we do love her, but she isn’t and will never be our mom.

Now she isn’t speaking to me and is sulking around the house and I’m wondering if I went too far. So AITA?

Edit: thank you all for your replies, the nicknames you came up with made me and my brother laugh so hard. And for everyone asking she is in her late thirties.

The original post: /r/amitheasshole by /u/IllFuel53 on 2025-04-16 18:42:48.

EDIT TO ADD: I found out he can adjust the dates up until May 15, and he won't admit to it (I have a copy of his girlfriend's parenting plan). In addition, I would like to clarify the only time I need to give up is for a work trip that is out of my control. My personal trip is on my non-parenting time, but I would have to cancel it to see my daughter for a few extra days before I don't see her for almost 2 weeks (except for 1 day). I appreciate all of the insights, but I don't know if I'm an asshole because I want to protect my parenting time with my daughter knowing I have a busy few weeks and travel required.

My ex reached out asking to take our daughter on a vacation, unsure of where to go and unsure of the exact travel dates, but probably Florida June 20-26. He will have her starting on June 18 due to his normal parenting schedule. I have a planned personal trip starting on June 18, and then have a work trip starting on June 28. Because of his request for me to give up the 24 & 25 to take her on this trip, and my work trip requires me to give up 3.5 days as well, I will only see her for 1-2 days in a span of 2.5 weeks.

In addition, or parenting agreement states that vacation requests cannot exceed 7 days, including any regular parenting time. Which he would be in violation of (6/18-6/26). And I can't take her the days before his trip, because I made personal plans to be out of town and can't change the dates (6/18-6/21). In addition, his initial request didn't point this out, so he didn't even read the agreement to make sure his request was compliant when he asked.

I told him I want to be flexible, but I can't and I don't want to go so long without seeing my daughter. He claims his dates are "locked in" and can't be moved. Which really means, his girlfriend agreed on the dates with her ex-husband (they don't seem to get along at all), but he didn't communicate anything to me until after they were finalized.

I did send the email thread to my lawyer, we have plans to go to mediation next month because he wants his parenting schedule to match his girlfriend's, and I'm not comfortable with that - also, my daughter sleeps on an air mattress at her house and has for months, which my ex won't do anything about it until they move in later this summer. But that's a side issue to this one....

I told him I won't give him the days due to being in violation of our agreement and my concern about not seeing my daughter enough within the timeframe. Am I being an asshole about this?

The original post: /r/amitheasshole by /u/NoHedgehog4504 on 2025-04-16 17:34:44.

So, I (20F) recently had a birthday, and I invited all my close friends. One of them, let’s call her Sarah, has been acting a little weird lately. We’ve been friends for a few years, and I’ve always considered her one of my closest. But things started feeling off when she started getting more distant—canceling plans, giving short answers when I’d reach out, and just not being herself.

At my birthday party, I was super excited to have everyone together. We were all talking, having fun, and I noticed Sarah was being a little off. She was quiet, sitting in the corner, not joining in much. I thought she might just be tired, so I didn’t think much of it.

At one point, I went to grab drinks, and I overheard her talking to another friend, saying things like, 'I don't get why (my name) thinks she’s all that, especially after that thing with (guy's name) last week. Like, it’s not like she’s even that pretty or anything.' I was shocked because I had literally just helped Sarah out with a personal issue a couple of days ago, and she was out here talking behind my back about me?

I’m not gonna lie, I felt hurt. I went back to the group, and Sarah was standing there alone. I walked up to her and flat out asked if she had something to say about me, because I heard everything. She went pale and started stuttering, and I just asked her to leave.

Everyone else at the party was kind of silent, and Sarah got upset, saying I was 'overreacting' and that she was just joking around. But honestly, I don’t think it was a joke. I don’t want friends who talk behind my back or bring negative energy around me, especially on my birthday.

The next day, I got messages from a few friends saying I was wrong to call her out in front of everyone, and I should’ve handled it privately. Now I’m questioning if I overreacted and if I should’ve just let it slide. AITA?

The original post: /r/amitheasshole by /u/DifficultWriting2152 on 2025-04-16 17:23:10.

When I wore a more revealing shirt, my brother made me feel bad about it. He said it’s like him wearing a shorts where I can see his bal**. My mom said it’s good when my own brothers tell me instead of strangers. In my opinion, it’s not my fault if they feel triggered by their own sister’s body. I feel like a pervert. Most of the time, I cover up so that they won’t comment on my body. https://imgur.com/a/tp2y1kk

The original post: /r/amitheasshole by /u/JustAnotherNerdyMom on 2025-04-16 16:56:59.

I (33F) share custody of my two daughters, 13 and 9, with my ex-husband. We divorced shortly after our youngest was born. Things were tense with his family at first — they didn’t support the divorce and I felt unwelcome. But over time, we reconnected. His mom, sister, and extended family have become a consistent, loving presence in my daughters’ lives.

As our co-parenting relationship improved, we celebrated holidays together. My daughters are especially close with their cousins (my ex-SIL’s kids). Even my current husband fits in well with everyone, and we’ve hosted large blended family dinners. For a while, it felt peaceful and whole.

My ex remarried a few years ago and now has a baby son. His wife has never been comfortable with my continued closeness to his family. According to my ex, she believes they secretly want us to get back together. She also felt his mom greeted me too warmly and didn’t show her the same excitement. During the early years of their relationship, his mom lived with them — and my ex asked her not to mention me at all. Eventually, his mom moved out, saying she wanted to give them space to grow.

Since then, things have changed. I’m no longer invited to events they host. The big family holidays stopped. His wife doesn’t allow his family much contact with their baby — they haven’t even held him. Recently, she uninvited his mother from the baby’s first birthday, even after she flew in to attend.

My daughters are heartbroken. These are people who helped raise them. My 13-year-old had a panic attack after my ex skipped both of her birthday parties this year. She’s said she feels stuck between her dad’s new family and the one she’s always known and loved.

I’ve talked to my ex about how sad it is we can’t all just get along for the kids’ sake. But he agrees it’s no longer “appropriate” to do holidays together. It seems he’s prioritizing peace at home over maintaining these extended relationships — even though they matter deeply to our daughters.

I’m now considering requesting more custody — not to punish him or “win,” but to give our daughters the emotional space and time with the family that makes them feel safe, loved, and supported.

Would I be the asshole for that?

The original post: /r/amitheasshole by /u/indyjumper on 2025-04-16 16:17:15.

I’ve been reading this sub for a long time and I finally have something to ask!

I live in a 2 story condo complex that is managed by an HOA. One lower unit reported some water damage through their outer wall and it was determined to be coming from the upstairs balcony. They inspected and found some rotten framing behind the stucco. The association would like to inspect all of the upstairs units now, of which mine is one.

They sent an email yesterday (Tuesday) saying they’d like a contractor to come inspect and to allow access for the contractor even if we’re not home. I’m not comfortable with someone I’ve never met having access to my home while I’m not there, so I said I’d like the contractor to contact me directly to setup an appointment. The HOA manager told me that they’d be there this morning (Wednesday) and would like to be able to inspect the balcony. I said I could be there at 9:30 to meet them. The manager said “perfect”.

I took time off from work to be out there and was home at 9:15 after taking my son to school. I waited until 11:30, and never saw a contractor even working on one of the other units nearby, so I left and sent an email to the HOA manager that I’d waited 2 hours and no one came by, so please have the contractor contact me directly to setup a definite time to inspect.

The manager sent me a reply that said:

“You could make this easier Seth. If you would allow us access. Then you wouldn't have to wait until Joe gets to your unit.”

AITA for not wanting a strange person in my home without me there and for leaving after waiting for 2 hours after our agreed upon time?

UPDATE:

I replied to the email with a mix of all of your suggestions, and the HOA manager gave me the contractor’s phone number. I called him and he said that they weren’t planning to inspect my block of units until Friday anyway, so he’d be happy to meet me there at a certain time.

As I posted in one reply, this was NOT an emergency. What could have clarified some info was that the water damage was in a different block of units than mine…ie a different structure. They all follow the same design however, so they want to make sure they don’t all suffer the same fate.

Thanks to those that offered constructive criticism. I’m not so sure about some of you that are willing to let random people into their homes without at least speaking with them on the phone first! lol

The original post: /r/amitheasshole by /u/TeeBrownie on 2025-04-16 10:46:30.

My friend and his wife have made plans to visit us this summer for a weekend stay. The flight is two hours, so not a really long journey for them.

We have our home professionally cleaned regularly and go all in to be good hosts to our guests. However, with any good thing, some people try to take advantage.

I usually will take an extra day from work after guests leave to get rest or even tidy up the house a bit. It’s just a peaceful time for me to return to the normalcy of our household after being in host mode. Before my friend booked his flight, my husband let it slip that I will not be working the Monday after my friends’ stay with us. Next thing I know, my friend tells me that they will be flying out on a red eye the Monday I took off for rest. This means they will arrive early Friday morning, and leave late Monday night. To that I responded that I will be taking them to the airport as early as 8am Monday morning so I can have my day of rest like I planned.

My friend tells me that he doesn’t understand why they can’t just hang out at our place or have us show them around town more on that Monday since they have a late flight. I explained to them that the day off is for me to rest, not to continue to be their host. I told them that they are more than welcome to leave their luggage here if they want to go explore on their own, but we will not be hosting them or playing tour guide after Monday morning.

He goes on to admit that it was cheaper for him to book the later flight on Monday and that it’s not a big deal for him and his wife to just hang out at my house all day until it’s time for them to fly out. Keep in mind that I will have to take them to the airport or pay for rideshare because he refuses to pay. I will also have to feed them.

I told him that they are welcome to visit and stay with us, but staying at our house all day Monday is not an option and he needs to make other arrangements. He’s now accusing me of being a horrible friend and his wife says we’re AHs. Your thoughts?

The original post: /r/amitheasshole by /u/not_your_shimmer on 2025-04-16 10:41:15.

First off English is not my first language so forgive my mistakes if any.

Long story short, I have a friend let's call her H who proposed we get together, I was down and started saving up for Money to contribute. She told me we'd be 12 girls in total, most are her friends I've met before but we're not close but I was fine with it since I was looking forward to making new friends.

Days later we agreed on an amount to contribute per person, we also agreed that after everyone contributes we will make a budget together keeping in mind people's allergies or diet restrictions.

Then on Monday H texted me and sent a document of the budget? I was shocked but still opened it and I found a lot of the food there were things I cannot eat due to allergies and food restrictions. I asked her about it and she answered that the majority agreed with those things and that I should get over it and that i can just eat the other things there.

I thought about it and decided I wouldn't go, and here's were I was called the asshole,I asked for my money back since I wasn't going to be attending. H and her friends are calling me a petty person because me backing out will do damage to their budget and so on. But I don't see the problem here, so reddit am I really being unreasonable here??

The original post: /r/amitheasshole by /u/PixxelGirly on 2025-04-16 10:13:18.

me (19f) and my flatmate (22f) have been living together for nearly a year it was all fine until like 3 months ago when her boyfriend started staying over more at first it was just weekends, now it’s basically every night he eats our food, uses our stuff like electric, gas etc and takes up the bathroom forever, but he doesn’t pay a single penny

i asked her if he could maybe pay towards bills or at least not be here every single night she got suuuper defensive and said i was being petty and jealous?? like babes what

now things are awkward and she’s super blunt with me am i actually being an asshole for not wanting a third roommate who pays nothing??

The original post: /r/amitheasshole by /u/AwesomestMaximist on 2025-04-16 09:25:53.

[16m] I'm currently in high school and yeah i'll just make bullet points to make it more comprehensible.

1. I am a part of the school soccer team, and there's this one dude who was my friend in elementary school. I currently would consider him a friend asw but not really THAT close. Most of the other teammates have the same relationship w me.
2. My parents divorced when i was 10 due to excessive fighting and arguing and then my dad went no contact. My mom got rlly depressed and started drinking a lot. She also would skip work a lot. She also gets fits of rages which existed before divorce too where she can yell at anyone around her including me and thrash around. I would be stuck trying to make her sleep after drinking, doing chores, taking car eof the house and helping her w financial budgeting. She also currently has a boyfriend who she argues with a lot.
3. One day, my teammates (there were like 10) came over for pizza and vid games. I didn't know my mom would come home early from drinking and she was w her bf. She was pretty drunk so she was yelling at me in front of them so i tried taking her to another room and then she started throwing things around and obv that startled the teammates so i told the bf to handle it while i took them out for a pizza instead.
4. After a couple of days, my father shows up on our door. I got confused because why is he here and what does he want? Turned out that elementary school friend told his mom and he wanted her to call my dad about everything he knew. He also told my dad that i am supposedly "depressed", "overworked", "angry" because i was distant from other people, skipping school (can't i take a break?), talking back to teachers (only bec they were genuinely being illogical). Depressed? This is illogical because the only person that needs help is my mom. My dad then overstepped by telling me that i should be under his care now and he'd fight for it. Really? Its so stupid bec you have been no contact for years and now you decide to talk to me bec of a single call from someone i am not close to? I refused and told him he should instead pay for mom's therapy. I'll be fine bec i have a life and everything. My mom doesn't.

After that, i was just really angry at the friend for not talking to me beforehand and just throwing me into this unwanted situation. I decided to leave the soccer team too.

The original post: /r/amitheasshole by /u/heavendem4ndsdeath on 2025-04-16 09:20:48.

i (17F) received $750 worth of gift cards to this store (sells groceries, clothes etc), i was gifted this from a cancer charity after i was diagnosed at 16 last year. for context i currently live with my parents and sister, a few weeks ago my parents flew to another city to see my older siblings. (found out the day before they left that they were leaving and they didn’t know how long they’d be)

during this time i looked after my sister as she’s autistic, i spent around $200 of my own money on groceries as we were waiting for 1 of the vouchers ($200) to come in. it ended up getting delayed and only came once my parents were back, my dad ended up using the voucher for groceries.

after this i asked him if he could transfer me $200 as that’s roughly what I spent on groceries when they were away. he said no that im just trying to get money from him even after my sister confirmed that I did spend around $200 of my own money on groceries for her and I. he didn’t believe her and said he will transfer $100 max unless I can show receipts, the issue is like a week after they came back i had to go up to a bigger city for treatment and my dad emptied my sisters backpack will should’ve had the receipts.

i guess i feel pretty disappointed as im trying really hard to save up for a car or motorbike or even an electric bike to get around. (i used to ride my normal bike to school or walk but it’s gotten pretty hard to do that since chemo).

maybe aita though cause i haven’t paid for my own groceries or rent since i got sick. (i don’t eat much, only 1 meal once every 2 days). i really want to get a part time job to save but im not medically cleared. i guess i was planning to possibly sell the vouchers or something as i really do just want some transportation.

am I just being selfish? and were the vouchers for my parents to spend cause they provide groceries?

i would love any outside perspectives especially from parents. regardless if they’re negative or posting. thank you for reading!! TLDR: aita for asking for $200 after my parents spent $750 worth of vouches that i was going to sell?

The original post: /r/amitheasshole by /u/Dark_Galaxyy on 2025-04-17 01:03:03.

For a few years at this point I(15F) have had the eating schedule of: Grab maybe a price of bread or some fruit in the morning, eat my lunch (either plain pasta or a a turkey Ruben) about an hour before official lunch time, have a large snack after school, and have dinner at about 9 or 10. I personally think, although a bit odd for most people, that if I stay consistent like I do, this is a healthy eating habit. However, my parents claim that I eat far too much food and I should have more for breakfast and not have a snack when I get home from school. I have tried this in the past but I end up still being hungry when I get home at the end of the day, and I'm still full when I wake up in the morning. I also think that because I've maintained a healthy weight, almost borderline underweight, for many years, it can't be that unhealthy. On top of that I'm in multiple different sports, so even if I eat a bit much, I think it could be justified. I don't think I have an eating disorder or anything, I've never had any concerns about my weight and I don't avoid many foods other than soggy bread and a few ingredients I think taste bad. But still my parents say I eat far too much, I eat way more than either of them do, and that it's bad for my health. So I've come to ask, is eating four meals a day bad for my health, and having too much food compared to everyone else in the house? Edit: "A large snack" usually means leftovers or some frozen vegetables if we have any

The original post: /r/amitheasshole by /u/KazenoZero0 on 2025-04-17 00:41:15.

Backstory my older brother (46) & I (32) were living together for two years four months after we both moved here from different states. Now when we moved in together we had a verbal agreement that if either of us were late with our half we would notify the other a week or two in advance. The first year together he was late 5 times & had two incident where eviction was almost filled against me because only my name was on the lease. Second year he was late a total of 4 times & each time he either caught an attitude about me asking why he was late or he would say he was sick and didn’t have it.

Skip forward to this year I tell him in January that because our property under new management & being late was no longer tolerated. Our agreement was that he would pay half on everything before the first of each month & if he was late he would be put out . When the 3rd came around he told me his accounts were flagged & he couldn’t use his cards & that even at the bank he couldn’t withdraw any money. However he said he had 380 on him & would give it to me when he saw me. That night when we both got home he told me that he no longer had it & didn’t remember telling me he had anymore. The following morning he told me he was going to go get it but he disappeared until the 10th. Per our agreement since he was late told him he was no longer welcome to live with me because I had to cover him again. He tells me that he was in the hospital because he was sick & couldn’t use a phone but still didn’t have anything so told him he had to go but he wouldn’t leave unless the police came. He left before they actually came out but broke in that night since I couldn’t change locks before of working a 12 hour shift. Aitha for putting him out?

The original post: /r/amitheasshole by /u/Full_Bookkeeper7057 on 2025-04-17 00:22:36.

If you got any advice id appreciate it very much.

Im 19 years old and I’ve lived my whole life having a room with no doors. Just a curtain that separates me from the living room. One day my parents decided to put a door in my room (finally). However, they decided that they wouldn’t put a doorknob. Its been 6 months now that my door remained “knob-less”. All the time I will kick the door for it to hopefully bounce back to open or ill be stuck trying to claw it open.

My main problem here is that I’ve tried asking them to buy me the doorknob but they keep brushing it off. They’ll often come without knocking, and sometimes just storm in. So I’ve decided that enough is enough. I bought a little tech-y doorknob that has passcode and what not. And boy we’re they furious. They keep using a cliché excuse that “we need the door open so that when we need something we can get it in no time”. BRO WHAT DO YOU EVEN NEEED IN MY ROOM?. Sure you might have a few bed sheets, blankets, and a few of your work uniforms stored in my wardrobe, but dude its oddly sus.

They’ve already caught me several times in the middle of changing underpants, stubbed my to as i was about to open my door, got hit on the head as I tried to open it, and probably the worst of all “almost” caught me wanking.

Ive always known that my parents (especially my dad) hates locked doors. Ive also thought about that they might just be concerned or something, but thats not the case. They hate us when we enter the room without knocking and would often give us a mouthful. Bro, we respect their privacy, but they cant do the same for us? Are they some kind of hypocrite?We went on a whole argument of why i should keep the lock and now they’ve threatened that if i don’t take it out they’ll remove it themselves .

The original post: /r/amitheasshole by /u/Party-Acadia-9904 on 2025-04-17 00:16:14.

My boyfriend and I (both 25M) live together. I get four weeks off paid time off a year and he gets five. Because of this I like to book two weeks per year at the same time as him and we'll take a trip or spend the week doing stuff together, and I'll book two weeks off to just be by myself and do shit I want to do.

I've done this as long as we've been together but have never explicitly said it out loud. This week he's off work and asked me why I didn't book the same week (I have next week off) and I told him how I like to alternate them. He got super offended and asked why I'm even with him if I don't want to spend time with him, but it's not that - I just like time to myself sometimes too.

Am I the asshole?

The original post: /r/amitheasshole by /u/ItsOuttaHere13 on 2025-04-17 00:07:56.

I have Interstitial Cystitis, a chronic bladder condition that causes me severe pain and irritation, which ultimately leads me to pee very frequently.

While I'm awake, if I pee once every 60-90 minutes, that's a good day. But, i'm often peeing 2-3 times per hour, minimum. While sleeping, I can sometimes go 2-3 hours at a time. But that's my max.

Put simply, this condition runs my entire life. It ruins my sleep and governs every decision I make.

When I travel or go to events, I always make an effort to get an aisle seat. I also do my best to avoid alcohol or any thing that will irritate me further (I've had nothing but water all of today).

I travel a lot for work and the people who book my travel know that I need an aisle seat. They're diligent about it. However, the flight I was supposed to be on today got cancelled and I got quickly rescheduled to a new one that I'm currently on. And that's what inspired this post.

I'm currently stuck in the window seat of a two person row on a completely full plane. I didn't even have a chance to realize this until I was boarding the plane (that's how last minute the change was). I explained the situation to the woman next to me and warned her that I'll likely be getting up 5-6 times minimum throughout the flight. I then offered to swap seats with her if she'd prefer that instead. She said no, she hates the window seat.

That is NOT the part that inspired this post though. She has every right to keep her seat. I'd never be one of those people who makes a fuss because people aren't catering to me and my needs. She chose the seat, it's hers. I did my due diligence warning her about the inconvenience. That's all I can do.

On the rare occasions this has happened in the past, the person has typically followed up their denial of the swap request by explaining that they pee a lot too or they like to get up a lot. If they're frequently out of their seat too, it makes my life so much easier.

This woman, however, immediately prepared to go to sleep. It's a five hour flight and these are first class seats. So she pulled out the blanket, pillow, eye mask and everything. She looked like someone prepared to sleep for the duration. So, while I usually only ask once, because I don't want to be a nuisance, I decided to politely inform her that I don't plan on sleeping and ask her one more time if she'd like to swap so I don't disturb her. She said no.

I was able to hold it for about the first 90 minutes to the point I felt like I was going to burst. I had to wake her up. She scoffed, unplugged her headphones from the TV, let me go by, and then scoffed again when I got back. About 45 minutes later I really had to go again. I woke her up again and, once again, she scoffed.

I feel awful every time I do it. But I also don't have the ability to hold it. At minimum, I'll have to go at least 2-3 more times on this flight. I have pretty bad social anxiety, so bothering her every time makes me so physically uncomfortable.

AITA for peeing?

The original post: /r/amitheasshole by /u/PickleNo7237 on 2025-04-16 23:32:11.

My friend lied to a stranger about his job, saying that he was an animator when he works in retail. I asked him not to do that but he did it again to another stranger. He then asked me to review the place he works for and I said no because it's dishonest and after he back-pedalled & said he was only joking. Am I right to qu the friendship? Am I being 'over the top'? He is doubling down on it being a joke, that his 'sarcasm didn't come through'.

He also said that he was in a queue for the bank and there could be a bank robbery and he would still be happy. I suggested that he should maybe make the situation more about himself than a bank being robbed otherwise it might come off as harsh and un-empathetic. Then he said he didn't mean the violence but it would make him have to wait longer in line. I explained that this doesn't make sense as no one stays queuing in a bank robbery. If anything it would likely be closed down. I feel like he back-pedals quite a bit whenever I bring something up. I'm starting to feel like I'm going crazy. I said I feel like he is gaslighting me when he back pedals and his response was that I am apparently gaslighting him by puttin words in his mouth. I said I need to think about whether to continue the friendship because I don't feel like I can trust what he says. Can I please get an outside opinion on this. I don't think I want a friend like this but not sure if I'm being the a-hole as generally he is a good friend but lacks drive and seems quite narcissistic. I find myself needing space from him on a regular basis like every 3 months.

The original post: /r/amitheasshole by /u/Old-Plastic on 2025-04-16 23:23:40.

I was happy to service my friends car (zafira 2013),, everything fine however the oil filter was done incorrectly by the person prior to me doing it meant I couldn't properly put on the new one (at the time I didn't know this but previously it was put on incorrectly and was cross threaded ) which then caused a big oil leak. Long story short, the car was picked up by the local garage and towed but unfortunately they have said the engine has now seized and car will now need to be scrapped.

Need to add on, my friend has been driving the car with the red low oil pressure light for 2 months, so I'm assuming that also has caused alot of irreversible damage to the car in addition to me trying to change the oil.

We were each others best men at our weddings so obviously I'm so upset and felt like although the inevitable may have happened - I certainly fast forwarded it. I'm going to give him a large chunk of money to go towards his new car (can't afford much).

The original post: /r/amitheasshole by /u/MaudeDib on 2025-04-16 23:06:41.

I got invited to a coworker’s (Bgirl) birthday dinner at a Sushi place. I declined because bleh, I can’t stand fish.

So I get there and of COURSE there is no “other stuff.” Ended up eating miso soup, plain rice & tea. There were 11 people total, including Bgirl. Everyone else was a friend of hers. I was the only coworker there. I was stuck between two people who each turned the other way to talk to someone else. Ugh.

The check came. Bgirl smiled and thanked everyone loudly for “treating her to such a wonderful dinner” and then disappeared to the bathroom for 20 minutes. Someone did the math and said, “Okay, it’s $360 each, including tip. I can put it on my card and everyone can Venmo me.”

I almost did a spit take. I just stared at my plate. My adrenaline started going. Luckily I had cash so I fished in my purse and put $25 down next to my plate which hopefully covered miso, rice and tea.

To my shame, I took the cowards way out! I said I was heading to the bathroom but I just WALKED STRAIGHT OUT. I didn't even say goodbye. I didn't want 9 other sets of eyes staring me down and pressuring me.

A few days ago Bgirl came back from her trip and immediately came to my desk and loudly told me I "completely ruined" her dinner AND her trip because she didn't get to a few things she had planned because she she had to cover my “share." She said that I should have just talked to her if I couldn’t afford it. She offered to let me pay her back in installments at $50 per paycheck.

I told her I could afford it but I had NEVER agreed to pay for her meal, and if that was the expectation, she should have told me so when she invited me so I could make an informed decision. I don't feel I owe her or her friends anything.

She INSISTS that it’s “customary” to split evenly when a big group goes out to dinner and everyone know that the birthday person never pays, that I should have just gone with the flow. Everyone knows this, Maudedib, its standard social etiquette.

I told her there was no law that says everyone else pays for the Birthday person or that you split the bill evenly. She actually said, “It’s not the letter of the law,” it’s the spirit of the law.”

I told her, "Cool. Well, the spirit of my wallet said no."

Now she is campaigning behind my back, gossiping to anyone who will listen (behind my back) that Maudedib is a broke cheap-ass bitch who skips out on the bill and warning them not to go to lunch with me, etc. She has sent me a flurry of demanding texts which I am ignoring.

AITAH for not splitting the bill evenly with 10 strangers when I barely ate and didn't agree to pay for her?

TL;DR: Coworker pressured me into her pricey sushi birthday dinner. I ate $25 worth of miso, rice, and tea. Bill came $360 each which included paying for Bday girl's dinner. I paid $25 cash & bounced. Now she’s mad I didn’t split evenly or pay for her and is insisting I owe her. AITAH?

The original post: /r/amitheasshole by /u/Far_Read7075 on 2025-04-16 22:42:31.

My sister always asks me to babysit and I normally say yes. She asked me last minute and tried to guilt trip me about it and make me think she had a really important work event or something she couldn’t miss. ( she has a director role and sometimes has last min business meetings ) This time it was bc she wanted to go to an orgy with her friend! She is recently divorced and tried to guilt trip me using the lonely excuse. I am not last min helping so she can go to an orgy. Sorry