Ask Lemmy

A week ago on the radio, there was an interview broadcast where someone remarked "if dueling was legal, mass shooters and terrorists wouldn't be terrorizing, they'd be dueling" which led me down a rabbit hole which led me to wanting to make something out of it as it's now one of my fixations. Throughout history, though, it has come in many kinds, from guns to swords to jousting and, at one time, Canadian logrolling. What kind, real or fictional, is your favorite?

Dollar Tree.

It used to have been an unreal experience witnessing the existence of these stores when they came out. Everything for a $1. No joke. The quality of some things have had corners cut and the quantity might've been laughable, but there was a good solid purpose for these stores.

And then I started seeing the signs after a few good solid years of shopping there. The first sign was how they stopped selling eggs. This was before the Bird Flu. They stopped selling eggs because they simply couldn't afford to buy stock and then the price hike to $1.25 happened.

And now they've hiked the prices again to $1.50 for some products in a handful of stores. Additionally, they've incorporated items going from $2 ~ $15 so they have long lost the role and title of being the most affordable places to shop.

Gone were the days.

I try to join about 5 minutes before because I'm terrified of being the first person or the last.

Hello,

I was with my brother and his group of friends, and one of his friends was talking about various drugs. My brother told him, "Shut up, you're going to put us on a watchlist," and he said it in a serious tone. It felt pretty dystopian when he said that; honestly, it was a bit eerie, mostly because he's being controlled and self-censoring without anyone there, and he seems to be aware of the freedom he's giving up, yet he continues to act this way. I've talked to my brother about privacy and why it's important many times, but he would rather live this type of controlled life and doesn't care because "they already know everything about me anyway." He's in his early 20s.

Has anyone else had moments like this?

Context is that I had to register for a lot of accounts recently and some of the rules really make no sense.

Not name-and-shaming, but the best one I've seen recently is I might have accidentally performed an XSS attack on a career portal using a 40-digit randomly generated password...

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Charlie_Hebdo_shooting

This is a sensitive topic for some people, so please do your best to have civil discussions. Let's do better than the average social media.

My least favourite day has to be Wednesday because it's still in the middle of the week, you get two more days to battle through and it just feels like it won't ever end.

Monday I can deal with because you know it's only the start, Tuesday it's meh for me.

Thursday I'm okay cos I'm gearing up for Friday and the weekend.

What about you?

Idk if it's because of my ADHD or Depression but I struggled my whole life with finding a healthy balance to all these temptations that this world offers.

I'm 21 years old now (and a male) and I feel like this is now stronger than ever. It could be worse because these temptations might've become more and stronger or it's the fact that becoming an adult feels so overwhelming to me because of all the freedoms that come with all these responsibilities of managing and balancing/limiting everything yourself.

I find it so hard to restrict/discipline myself since there are so many temptations in this consumer oriented world. Even though I know that most of the stuff isn't good for me, it feels impossible to have the discipline to not go after it/escape it.

And often I have this inner conflict of not knowing what the right decision is and if I should do what my inner child desperately wants because it feels like it will easily give me the happiness that I'm seeking for my life and that I can't miss out on it (but it might as well be an illusion and will only make my life worse) or if I should not go after that to potentially become long-term successful/happy but with the big possibility of failing anyways (which is why I don't go after the second option most of the time since it seems like an unachievable illusion to me since I always fail anyways).

Idk if this has something to do with capitalism and wonder if it might be different in non capitalistic societies or if they have the same problem. Because it seems like everything in this world is designed to get people to buy/consume it. I feel like the world just sees me as a dollar sign and wants to milk every penny out of me without caring what this does to my health. Like a trap.

I know we're supposed to be responsible for our own actions but it seems that it is made so hard to the point where its almost impossible to do. I mean it is well known through insiders, whistleblowers but also the industry itself that these big companies hire psychiatrists and neurologists to make all these products such as social media as addictive as possible since engagement and attention span is key for them. And they are well aware about the downsides and affects to peoples health but they don't care cause they only care about the money. It's like they intentionally make us sick for their greedy benefits.

It's like there are all these doors for entering escapism, they're all around me and are screaming that I need to go in. And since I already feel so miserable it seems impossible to not enter the doors cause they're the easiest way of escaping the misery and somehow getting through the day.

It's so hard to get out and live a life outside off these temptations cause they're everywhere and give you this easy and fast pleasure that's craved by our simple primate brains.

There's constantly new stuff like addictive food, toxic media and technologies, new consoles, games and so on.

It seems to me that the world is designed to put us down instead of lifting us up. And it feels impossible to escape it since I'm too weak to overcome all these external things that are designed against me.

Am I the only one who feels like this? What are your thoughts on this? How much could this be a personal issue and how much could it be societal related?

... I just wanna sleep

I've always dreamt of waking in a magic forest. And I mean like, no explanation. Just Poof I'm there, kinda thing. I think a lot of it stems from games like Zelda or any RPG.

I have heard from multiple people that eye contact is essential in letting a girl (or guy, I guess) know you're interested.

But what is the 411 when it comes to said eye contact? Do you keep looking until she does? Do you then keep staring? Or is like looking at the sun? What's the deal?

Will we know why had universe began, why there is something instead of nothing.

Of course it's not an explicit expectation, but the news cycle is dominated by a mix of 24/7 news and daily summaries. It's rare that I see weekly, bi-weekly, monthly summaries. I'm thinking, is there really that much that can happen in a day and that warrants our attention? Most news are clickbait focused on the negative, making us feel depressed and feeds our negative emotions. I wouldn't be surprised if the news actively contributes to the mental health crisis.

At the same time I think it can be of importance to have some understanding on what's going on in one's local area, one's country and in the world. For me I think a weekly summary would be good balance, but those are weirdly hard to find. What are your thoughts?

And obviously "making use" of it. Daily? Weekly? Twice X month?

Pickels

Ka-runch!

Every account you ever had, every post/comment you ever posted, now has your real name, a photo of you, and your address, all just magically show up on the webpage right next to each of your posts/comments (also, no "hacking" could hide the info). All deleted posts/comments are magically restored and nothing you do (short of permanently shutting down the website and physical destruction of the servers) can delete them. (Any edits would still show every change you made.) How fucked are you?

And don't think about changing your name, or moving, all this info updates in real time. (for "magic" reason)

(You also cannot delete any future posts.)

you heard me

I use a Linux distro with kde, so I have a lot of customization available. I like trying other distros in VMs, but stuff like windows (no need to copy really kde is similar by default) and Mac is a pain in the ass to use that way. so, I want to know what your os does that you think I should copy using kde's customization. I'm looking for Mac in particular (bc I haven't used it before) but any OS or desktop environment is fair game.