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I really do like KBin and Lemmy and the fediverse on the whole, but development is still young and the userbase still growing. KBin is still basically early access, and Lemmy is buggy. I spent alot of time in reddit and I'm feeling the pain of trying to ween myself from it. Just wanted to here community perspectives and see how other's are taking it.

For me, I feel a bit of a sore hollow spot for what reddit used to be and watching it implode is not fun for me.

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[–] [email protected] 158 points 1 year ago (5 children)

Reddit was something unique and personal to each user. Some it was new, some it was the only place to find specific tech or other advice that wasn't corrupted by ads and algorithms on goggle and other big corporations.
Reddit was my way of disengaging from world news before I knew about anxiety, and how things could affect me and become personal even though I had no way to help world events. So I used it to personalize my mental diet, if I was creative I could sub to many craft subs like leather or metal etc, it's where I went to get other perspectives on movies and content that I didn't fully understand.
End of the day, is all that possible still on Reddit, kinda, but it's going away, and they pushed me personally to leave as I could see it was becoming google/Facebook, ad algorithms to push what people pay for or get paid for. So time to reset.
Become involved, I'm way more involved and adding to discussions on the new sites I'm on. Everyone adding comments and posts and perspectives and opinions are building this up from bottom up.
You are the future, make your perspective part of the future by helping guide these new sites to something we can be proud of.

[–] [email protected] 36 points 1 year ago (3 children)

@Bendersmember

@Hondolor

I’m upvoting your comment because you bring up great points, but I personally disagree with the disengaging from world events aspect. I’ll miss the niche subreddits that helped you solve the most random of issues, but I think reddit was far from a great place to disengage from news and the political discourse brought by news. Ever since the 2016 election cycle, I personally saw a considerable increase of posts regarding politics that came from both established subreddits and new ones that popped up (like /r/enoughtrumpspam which simply added more spam to the pile).

I think Trump’s campaign and presidency really ignited a lot of this, and while I neither like nor support Trump, I miss when the biggest disruptions were from isolated events (like the Occupy Wall Street movement or the Ellen Pao fiasco) rather than 4 years of a presidential tenure.

After years of nonsense, it all just got tiring. You can curate your reddit experience, but what happens when all the political doom scrolling finds its way into your favorite subreddits?

Kbin and the rest of the fediverse will grow, and I’m aware that the same kind of posting will find its way here, too. Thankfully the fediverse lets you subscribe to multiple communities of the same name, so maybe /m/news isn’t up one’s alley but /c/news is, for example.

I didn’t realize how shit reddit was getting until I stopped using it. The constant barrage of political shit accompanied by low effort comments/puns did a number on my happiness. I stopped using Facebook for similar reasons.

I’m glad you’re also adopting the mindset of being an active contributor. For years I also just would scroll and seldom upvote, but if we want to make “this house a home”, we need to put in the effort ourselves! I look forward to seeing how this all plays out. So far, I am very optimistic. I hope you find your niche interested here sooner than later!

[–] [email protected] 17 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

Some of it was also political activists or people paid to actively work to sway opinion on social media.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago

"Some" is a huge understatement.

[–] [email protected] 13 points 1 year ago (3 children)

After years of nonsense, it all just got tiring. You can curate your reddit experience, but what happens when all the political doom scrolling finds its way into your favorite subreddits?

I'm not much into US politics, but you know, this reminds me of why I started disengaging from my own country subreddit. At the start it was mostly about the people and the community, and I liked talking to people and hearing their problems. I was hosting regular get-togethers and eventually became a mod. As Reddit got more mainstreatm, the anti-government political people started coming in and well, I don't want to be hearing about moaning all the time. These people also had a terrible persucation complex (not helped by my country's history of surpressing opposition views), so any attempt to moderate these people when their posts and comments got excessive and off-topic was met with fierce pushback. I just wanted a more positive place for people, instead of endless political bickering.

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[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 year ago

I always stuck with front page and never was on popular or all, I feel that was my saving grace. Also reposts and crossposted content drove me batty, so overtime unsubbed from groups that got political or negative. I wasn't subbing to just kitty cat pictures, more so hobbies, movies, and specific YouTubers like rlm etc. That's why I mentioned that everyone's experience was different, just a few different subs and the whole experience is different.

I'm in a demographic that people actively try to push and radicalize as well, so even if I am frustrated with things and how they affect me, I always keep one foot out and try to be super aware of that. I feel some, not all obviously get caught up over time and it erodes who they are and normalizes some really crazy things. So when I realize something like American politics is affecting me and my day, as a Canadian, I step back and look at what I'm letting into my mental diet.

End of day I hope we all learn from the past and can improve on what worked and avoid what didn't. There's no reason to not learn from the past and try to grow in a positive way.

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[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago (1 children)

While I feel a bit nostalgic to leave Reddit behind, I recently realised it had become stale for me. Time to move on.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago

Absolutely this. It got very homogenized. I joined reddit for the variety of people and their ability to understand topics I'd like to understand better. Then it all turned to bots and reposts. Then I would unsub from one subreddit and migrate to the new sub that was similar to the sub I just abandoned until the new sub became infested with bots and reposts, then rinse and repeat.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago (1 children)

This is a great answer.

I feel like I can do away with the doomscrolling and time-wasting, but it's the specific advice and hobby subs that will be difficult to tear away from completely.

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[–] [email protected] 56 points 1 year ago (6 children)

The whole social media collapse has been crushing for a recluse like myself. I mean, I might as well come out straight and say that. I'm not tactile and I don't socialize, so the internet is my main source of communication with the outside world. I'm guaranteed to find people who share my interests, people who "get" me, people who don't act like I came from Venus when I finally open up to them. When that all folds in on itself, or mutates into something that would make the monstrous works of HR Giger look like HR Puffnstuff, yeah, it's kind of painful. Like living through your own digital 9/11. That sounds dramatic, and I mean it to be, but yes, losing social networks that were trusted sources of discussion has been like a sledgehammer to my mental health.

TMI, sorry. I do leave my house when needed, but it's more business than pleasure. (There's very little pleasure involved.)

[–] [email protected] 12 points 1 year ago (2 children)

I hear you. I spent most of fmy social time as a teenager in those new-fangled chat rooms in the mid-late nineties and I don't think I ever really learned to socialize properly in person. Lol. That said, I don't find the newness of this platform too daunting. I was one of the people who left Digg back in the day too.

I do miss my May 2023 baby bumps group now that I'm on maternity leave and have a lot of down time feeding the little one though. It's not like it's easy for me to leave the house with a toddler and a newborn even if I was to join a real life parenting social group.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Taking my daughter to organised play groups several times per week was forced upon me due to needing access to the community nurses who attended, as she needed constant monitoring of a birth condition. However, I'm incredibly glad I went, and continued to do so long after the condition ceased to need such close attention.

I made friends with several other parents, our children bonded and made their first friendships and learnt the basics of social interaction. The shared learning and support we were able to offer each other smoothed over countless daily needs and little fears. Sure, these friendships didn't all sustain themselves long past our kids starting at their various different schools, but by that stage they had already learned so much that I could tell apart many of the children who had benefited from a similar experience and those who hadn't.

I say all this simply to encourage you to try these sorts of groups. You might not make friends who last forever, you might not meet people exactly to your liking, but that's life and it's a valuable experience for the kids for that very reason. People are never more welcoming and friendly than when you have young children and need some companionship, we're all in that same exact boat.

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[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 year ago

Hey, I know what you mean. As a teen I spent a huge amount of time on the local BBS scene, before moving on to the Usenet groups, IRC, and then various forums.

I'd say don't despair. Interest groups will find a way to congregate somehow. We did fine socialising online before garguntan social media networks, and we will continue to do so without them. There'll be a dip in the near-future, but others will come to take the place of these social networks. They may not be huge and all-encompassing, but maybe that's what we really need: Smaller communities tailored to more specific needs and wants.

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[–] [email protected] 36 points 1 year ago (2 children)

I've been on Reddit for 14 years now. I honestly don't know where else to get tailored news and discussion on niche topics, particularly ones too niche to establish a userbase here on the Fediverse yet. I expect I'm just going to be out of the loop on things from now on as I live like a hermit in the mountains.

[–] [email protected] 14 points 1 year ago (1 children)

You touched on what is the biggest thing for me. I've been on Reddit for about the same amount of time. That said, I'm a habitual lurker, so much of the participation and community interaction comments don't hit as close to home for me, but I've been off Reddit since the protest started and I just feel out of the loop. Most of what I was reading every day was trivial nonsense but it was trivial nonsense that I at least felt somewhat informed about, now between getting off Reddit and Twitter I just feel like I'm living under a rock.

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[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I just set up a rss feed of all my subreddits that I still lurk. Try it out!

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[–] [email protected] 21 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Yes absolutely. I miss so many subreddits so dearly, and some of them aren't leaving reddit and I feel too guilty to go back there even though I'm a PC user. I'm really sad about everything, and I feel really lonely and awful. I've been super active in both the /kbin and Artemis communities, and they're both wonderful, so I'm making new friends, but nothing's going to fill the void truly.

Everything is not awesome :(

[–] [email protected] 16 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (3 children)

Go back to your Reddit friends (e: if you miss them).

I hate Reddit as much as anyone else, but why make yourself miserable because of an API change?

Stay on kbin AND stay on Reddit. Evangelize!

[–] [email protected] 14 points 1 year ago

I don't have any interest in contributing to spez's prosperity. He destroyed the modern Library of Alexandria.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 year ago

Consider my comment here as a rebuttal. If you want to stay on Reddit, that's OK, but I see this as an opportunity for you to be a part of doing something different.

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[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 year ago

Oh absolutely, Reddit's value was partially due to its years of user curated content. It'll take a while to build the alternatives up to a similar level.

One benefit at least is that this shift allows for changes to be made that Reddit never would have done.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I still have my Reddit account with ~20 multireddits and countless subs. I enjoy the new experience on kbin and Lemmy, but I also miss my niche subreddits and the weird awe that I get occasionally from the mainstream subs.

I hope the typical offsite humour and the in-depth discussions will also migrate to kbin and Lemmy.

In the meantime, I urge everyone to create magazines for their niche interests to prepare this platform for more exiles and give them a homely start 👍

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[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 year ago (2 children)

I mean, it sucks, but to some extent -- I had hoped not to this degree -- life was going to get worse when Reddit shifted over from growth to monetization.

And I used Reddit when it was far smaller and less-featureful than the Fediverse is today (not to mention with worse uptime...it used to die on a regular basis or start acting weird as the devs worked on scaling it up early-on.). It didn't have subreddits then, much less all the niche stuff that exists today. Riding another network through growth is okay with me.

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[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago

I think it is good and healthy to regularly go through changes that affect your daily life.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago

I felt this way at first but the more time you spend away from reddit the more you realise how toxic of a place it is. I initially had planned to stay on there because I have communities on reddit that don't exist here. But I just couldn't do. The vibe on kbin / lemmy is just so much better and it feels refreshing to explore the internet in a new way. Reddit feels stagnant and gross in comparison now.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago

After 6-7 years on reddit via Boost. It really was a big part of my life and it all falling apart really bothers me. Especially since it helped me mentally so much on so many levels.

Also I'm having a really hard time dealing with all the alternatives. I'm trying to get used to kbin but while I know it's still the early stages of the product, as a UX Designer, it just doesn't feel good to use at all at this stage. And it's still a big question mark if the communities and niches I enjoyed on reddit will even grow or thrive on any of the alternatives. Which again really sucks.

But despite the disruption it's caused, fuck reddit and fuck spez. No going back.

Fingers crossed that the alternatives grow and thrive.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago

I feel it for sure. I’m kinda using it as an opportunity to take a break from socials for a bit to be honest. I’m excited about kbin and lemmy but I’m also happy to have the clunkiness of the sites be a reason for me to be outside more

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Reddit in general has been in a fairly steady state of decline. Certainly recent events haven't made things any better, and I've been openly critical.

However, I more or less gave up on participating on Reddit during the pandemic. The sheer number of people constantly online at that point while actively in the era of brigading, having any kind of counter opinion on Reddit ended in you just getting shamed and downvoted. I'm not talking about unpopular, right-wing stuff, but stuff like having an opinion on a hockey player leaving a team for another was enough to garner literal death threats.

I more or less resolved to stop actively participating when I went to a support forum and got buried and (again) shamed for trying to get help with a question. Instead they dangled the answer in front of me. The answer, by the way, wasn't possible in any of the ways they were trying to suggest, as the method no longer worked. So not only were they actively being jerks, they weren't gatekeeping valid information. Forget it, why bother?

Reddit WAS amazing. But like everything else, it gets ruined. I don't want to be all negative, but history has consistently repeated itself. Hopefully the Fediverse can withstand it's own weight, especially if big players like Meta plan on getting involved. I hope it's robust enough to withstand, I WANT it to be robust enough.

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[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago (2 children)

I have a hole in my heart, absolutely. I moved over to kbin on June 12, and I hoped that my grief would have subsided over the following 2 weeks, but I feel just as displaced.

I echo what others have said that at least here in the Fediverse, it feels safe enough to comment without getting trolled or dogpiled, so I have been much more engaged here than the last 6 years of my time on reddit, combined. But there are barely enough users here to even have a repartee. 😓

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[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago

Trying figure out solving tech issues , wasn't ready to stop wit (.*) site:reddit.com . Just wasnt ..

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago (3 children)

Yeah, I'm gonna miss the level of community engagement from my favorite subs. NCD, RoughRomanMemes, and Shermanposting. We likely won't get that level of activity here for a long time. Also gonna miss updates from r/Ukraine, though I get most of the big news from ISW, the human interest stories shone most on Reddit.

I still have my reddit account to keep track of a few niche communities that can't survive the move, but I haven't commented or doomscrolled since I left for Kbin.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 year ago (2 children)

I think it maybe important for us to all collectively shift our views on commenting on "old" posts. I'm going to give myself a 2 week window on commenting on threads. If everyone had this kinda attitude it may help with engagement short term til things start picking up long term.

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[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Unfortunately, the blond piggy was right; it'll all blow over.
Most of the people getting riled up over reddit's antics will remain there out of convenience and/or habit.

It's like with video games. People shit on EA and other AAA developers but still preorder their games.

At the end of the day, all of the internet's content trickles from platform to platform, it's just a matter of where in this chain you are.

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[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago

Reddit schmeddit

It was just a location, and it got burnt out like every other spot for the past ???,000 years. I go where the shitposting goes, everything else will follow. As it always does.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago

Yes, and it's about goddamned time.

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