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[–] [email protected] 10 points 4 days ago (1 children)

This poor individual has never been in a lasting relationship.

If you can’t talk, in full, with your partner such that you somehow need small talk, that’s not a relationship, it’s a one night stand that happens to last for 3 months to a year.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 4 days ago (1 children)

As other people in this thread have said, it's usually more about the person than it is the topic. I'm happy to hear my wife talk about the weather tomorrow but if the guy behind me in line at the store does it I'm answering in grunts and annoyed expressions.

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[–] [email protected] 6 points 4 days ago (1 children)

Personally I think that small talk is also regional. Some places small talk might be discouraged at a store while other places it might be encouraged. The same might be for the subway, a restaurant, the bathroom, etc, depending on the country or culture it may be totally ok or exceptionally discouraged.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 3 days ago (2 children)

I really fucking hope there isn't a place on earth where smalltalk on public transit is encouraged.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 3 days ago (1 children)

I love how the guy casually mentions the bathroom but public transport is the one that got you lmao

[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 days ago

I once went to a public swimming pool in Austria, half the pool was for nudists and the other half was for clothed persons. The restroom for clothed people was very long, but the restroom for nudists was busy but short. I ended up going to the nudist restroom and a 50+ year old naked guy walked up and started talking to me while using a pissoir. Basically he was asking why I was dressed at the nudist portion of the pool, I told him the line was shorter, he laughed, and went about his pissing.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 days ago

I don't know about encouraged, but it's definitely not uncommon in some places. Small talk doesn't have to be a lot of communication either, it can be as little as basic platitudes. It's things like sitting at the bar in a pub and the guy beside you points out an amazing play on the television or it could be the person on the bus pointing out something crazy they see out the window.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 4 days ago

How do people who don't like the color chartreuse expect to color things? Chartreuse is my favorite color!

[–] [email protected] 9 points 4 days ago (3 children)

but seriously free will does not exist.

[–] Sabre363 7 points 4 days ago

But I saw him jump over those rocks in the movie, Free Willy has to exist!

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[–] [email protected] 6 points 4 days ago

That's exactly how my wife and I do things.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 4 days ago

I'm in this picture and my SO doesn't like it.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago)

Absofuckinglutely. This is what I do, and what she does, though our methods of exploration vary.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 4 days ago

Breathe, son.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 4 days ago

Some people view certain talk as smalltalk but im always up to know about the weather or bad traffic or anything I can avoid or indulge in if I can.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 4 days ago (2 children)

Honestly, I always engage in small talk. You can hate it but I see you on a regular basis and I'm always attempting to make a connection, one day we will connect.

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[–] [email protected] 6 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago) (2 children)

I mean, yeah? That's always been my relationships, I've only ever had pretty long-term ones.

Do y'all literally talk to your significant others about the goddamn weather or food every day?

Idk about y'all but in my current relationship I'd usually start with an in-depth analysis of some latest media I consumed or a geopolitical development, we'll be briefly reflecting upon developments in Palestine or Ukraine or UK politics or the latest on the US election while we share a couple Red Bulls and try new Elfbar flavours.

Sometimes this descends into a hearty debate on economics like whether increased taxation can raise the value of currency through demand creation (technically but it's not an effective measure), however eventually i will be pivoting into a technology I had learned about or historical context for some such, perhaps reflecting upon my cybersec exploits, relating to my independent study or my dayjob.

At some point she'd relate it to a material or technique she's been studying for her masters in material engineering, she'd remark on disliking inorganic chemistry, and we'd get into in-jokes, (latest being about Aerobiz 2000 for the Sega Genesis and my interest in the inner workings of an A320 and less than stellar business acumen) which will inevitably make us watch a video essay on YT or play a light game together like Life is Strange or HOI4 or even just listen to some music, later we'd order some Domino's Pizza and have some intimate times, a couple of nice sweet Barefoot wines and maybe a bit of Kinder Chocolate (not Bueno) for dessert later, we're asleep.

Sometimes we get nostalgic and talk about what life was like before we met on Tinder or talk about our future dreams, plans and aspirations.

I think smalltalk is okay when you're in a work meeting and you just want the coworkers to go away as soon as possible and let you get back to sleep, but I'd never date someone who is so socially inept that they would resort to smalltalk.

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[–] [email protected] 6 points 4 days ago (1 children)

Quantum physics, theoretical alien biology, the alleged obsolescence of battleships... Do these all count as small talk? Because this is the stuff my wife talks about with me.

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