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Good on you. Next time you want to go "fuck all men" remember that would be stooping as low as a misogynist, only on the other side of the road.
The silver lining is that pain helps people see flag's true colours better. So you will (I hope) not waste time with someone else showing similar warning signs next time.
There's technically not a single wrong word with your comment in my opinion. But, respectfully, don't you feel it reads as a bit condescending and admonishing? Especially when rereading the OP and then your comment in succession. The OP said they just wanted to vent a little here but then go on to barely vent at all: they just say they 'wanted to go into โfuck all menโ mode' but didn't since they know it's not true or helpful. As I read it they just felt the (understandable) initial frustration but immediately worked through that feeling like an adult.
Yes, that's actually why I didn't reply to them. The first part of the comment comes across like they didn't read what I wrote directly after, and I'm not interested in repeating myself or getting defensive over having a brief reactionary response to emotional abuse. Thank you ๐
Well I'm sorry it came across that way. I'm not trying to attack you or upset you at all, just hoping to give you a different perspective on why what you did was right. I repeat, what you did was right. I'm glad you have a solid support group irl now and I hope you keep it for life, but from experience that's not always the case for everyone, and there is also the unfortunate possibility you may have a bad experience with a partner again- which I hope you don't. But if you do find yourself in that situation, I'm hoping my previous comment helps you see you are better prepared to face such situation again in the future.