Menopause
'Menopause isn't really that bad'...said no woman ever.
For those who are approaching or experiencing 'the change' (think reverse puberty), a time where hormone levels decline either through the aging process or by medical/surgical means.
Menopause and Perimenopause (the transitional time before Menopause) are unique to every person, and while there's no one-size fits all, we support each other on this roller coaster ride of wacked out hormones, absurd mood swings and random sweaty hot flashes.
Be kind. Be respectful. We are all in this together!
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I'm doing okay (fingers crossed and hoping I'm not jinxing myself lol) but this is the little calm before the cosmically horrific emotional storm that usually drops on me at various times. I have been freezing the last few days and that's so unlike me. Usually I'm randomly burning up and I need to sit in front of the fan for a bit to get back to warm. This new freezing feeling is not welcome. I want happy medium! The brain fog has been awful this past week though. I try not to be hard on myself over it and I'm learning to show myself grace. But when you really need to pluck something from your memory concerning a task you were going to do, and the only thing that comes up is fog and a "hello, this is brain fog here to sabotage your memory retrieval. Have a random thought about your age right now!" It's rough lol.
It's so important not to be hard on ourselves, we are our worst critics in everything. Trying to pluck something from memory is always worse when there's someone standing there, waiting for you to say it. Then I get frustrated, not about finding the words, but about what they might think.
What you said is so true! I have been trying to teach myself not to be hard on myself. The world will be hard on me at times; I need to be caring and guiding to myself. That tends to help. I really understand and relate to the feeling of frustration because someone is waiting on what we're supposed to remember. When I'm in that position, I end up saying I can't remember pretty quickly while my inner thoughts are about everything except the Thing I'm trying to remember lol.