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You have mountains of work to do if you want societies to realize that men suffer mentally too..
I'm rather convinced that society knows - it just does not care.
It doesn't matter if a lot of people care about something if they don't fight for these things to happen "society" ie the beaurcratic powers that be in different institutions will not automatically feature your issue. Inertia is more efficient for them. The reason so many minority initiatives have worked is because small but dedicated groups worked extraordinarily hard to pressure "society" to change. It's Pride month, look at that situation. The LGBTQIA is a small fraction of society, smaller back at it's Pride origins by far because a lot of people were scared out of their minds to come forward.
I understand that the instinct is to mope, to treat these problems as too big to change but that isn't healthy. What people need to remember is that just wishing or creating reasons not to try doesn't make things so. It is an unfortunate issue with straight cis men that they are not primed to organized guerilla social action. In part I think it is because there's this toxic internal expectation that someone else should be doing that work for you on your behalf. There isn't. If men want this to happen the movement has to start with men. Other people will join you and help you but they aren't going to do the basic work for you. That whole "elevate ( ____ ) voices" thing? Men could fill that space but that's the thing you have to put the work in to create the movement that treats your word as the authentic voice of the concern. Your voice needs to start that snowball effect and you need to make and start executing the plan.
Venting isn't all that useful on it's own mental health wise. Get it out of your system but add a second step. Ask yourself what you are going to do about it. Then find people in your area and organize. Be a leader of the movement or support one.
I see both sides. It takes enough men and women admitting there's an experience that can be improved, and both have vested interests in not improving it. Sadly, behavioral issues are shamed, rather than understood. I've known people who were sent to jails, prisons, psych wards, and the family distanced and blamed. Even those who self-harm, even self-unalive are treated with embarrassment, anger, guilt and shame.