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What happened to dancing at weddings? (kbin.social)

submitted 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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I was born and raised in America, and for some reason I have this classic notion in my head that people should be dancing at weddings.

However, now that many of my friends from earlier in life and college are getting married, when I go to those weddings, the dance, if they even have one, is on a tiny dance floor, maybe even just a small part of their reception hall that they scooted the chairs and tables out away from.

And it turns out, many people simply don't know how to dance. Sure, not everyone is a competitive ballroom dancer, but even my non-dancer friends in college would still go to swing dancing night and mess around on the dance floor.

Now, however, people just stand on the dance floor and sway or shuffle. I am loth to even call it dancing. It just seems like people are uncomfortable and not really having fun.

What happened? Did people stop dancing?

PS: Please check out the dance community for more dance related content. I just created it and would greatly appreciate some help with getting it off the ground!

Edit: "am loathe" -> "am loth". STT is a b.

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[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I've never been to a wedding reception where people don't dance, so I'm not sure where this is coming from. Now, I was born and raised in Miami, but I've been in New England the last 12 years. So I've definitely seen a drop-off in terms of ability, but people are still dancing!

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I think OP is specifically referring to people not dancing the way he wants them to. Or professionally. Honestly, I don't know how to dance but I know how to move my hips, and I love just moving to a beat. But it sounds like with this dude around I'd probably stay off the dance floor because he might want some organized, swing dance competition.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Thanks for the comment!

I have been to two weddings. The first one, nobody danced for the first two to three songs, and then only a few of my swing dance friends started encouraging people to give it a try, which people seemed to enjoy. After my friends got tired, people reverted to standing around uncomfortably.

The second wedding didn't have a dance.

Both situations seemed strange to me.

Hopefully this clarifies the question.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

It also makes a big difference what kind of music they play. Whether they've got an open bar. I made sure at my wedding it basically became a club, open bar, very dim lighting, actual modern dance music, literally every single person was dancing for hours. Another one I went to turned into basically a concert, the live band started playing some rock and roll and we were all drunk. Best wedding I've ever been to.