The only negative of going in for me is the commute
That's a pretty HUGE negative. Calculate how much time is wasted by your commute, calculate how much your transportation costs are, and then use that info to recalculate your compensation.
For me, commuting is aprox 1 hour each way (I'm only 27 miles away, but traffic is bullshit), and it costs me about $8 per day (that's the cost of driving to a nearby park&ride and taking public transportation the rest of the way into the city & back). That's 44 lost hours of free time EVERY MONTH, plus $176 lost out-of-pocket each month just to commute (this is based on an average month with 22 work days). And don't even suggest I move/live closer to work, cost of housing grows exponentially the closer you get to the city.
I don't understand how anyone can be in favor of commuting in to a job site if it isn't absolutely essential for the type of work being done.
Sure, and that's great...but the topic is 'de-escalation skills'. I'm just pointing out the obvious irony.