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These things are very controversial when it comes to women, but apparently most think it's ok when it's about men.

Do you blame your parents? Why did they do it? Scared of HIV? Not wanting to explain their son how to clean underneath the foreskin?

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[–] [email protected] 30 points 1 year ago (1 children)

That's a very leading question, don't you think? (heh)

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[–] [email protected] 26 points 1 year ago (2 children)

I understand the implications and I think it should be the person’s choice, not the parents but as a person with a penis whose parents had him circumcised, I don’t think about it ever really and it doesn’t affect my day to day life.

In answer to your questions, I’m not sure why they did it.

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[–] [email protected] 23 points 1 year ago (5 children)

Not happy with their decision but there’s nothing I can do about it.

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[–] [email protected] 18 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Looks like you're looking for a very specific answer that you're not getting.

Doesn't bother me one bit, as far as I'm aware I could have been born like this

[–] [email protected] 15 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (2 children)

When I asked my parents they said "We did it in case you wanted to marry a Jewish girl." It didn't make any sense at that time either, but since I don't have any problems with it and have never known my penis any other way, I don't really mind.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Did you marry a Jewish girl?

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[–] [email protected] 12 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I have literally never thought about it other than when these types of discussions come up. If I hadn't been circumcised I would probably think about it the exact same amount

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[–] JohnDClay 12 points 1 year ago (1 children)

My parents were told by the doctor that having it was hard to clean, (even as a baby) so came with increased risk of infection. I don't blame them. I do think the doctor could have been more clear about how large the risk was, and what the downsides to having it done would be. But I obviously don't have first had experience about the situation, so it could have been different.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

This was basically my situation, and it happened at age 4 so ironically some of my first memories are relating to my own circumcision 🙃. I also remember the doctor, with me laying on the table, trying to pull back my foreskin (again..4..) and making the call that I should be circumcised.

I'm not gonna gripe much about it after the fact. My mother did much, much worse things to me than have me circumcised for me to complain about so it's just one more thing on the pile. I have zero frame of reference to feeling what being uncircumcised is like so I can't really miss what I don't know, but my cock works as well as I want and need it to (fuck even more than I want it to some days at 40yo..) so while I'm not happy it occurred without my consent, there's little I can do with it and it has thankfully never affected my life in any negative way.

My wife and I are both in agreement however that should we ever have kids, we sure aren't doing it outside of actual medical needs.

[–] [email protected] 11 points 1 year ago

I wish it wasn't done to me. I blame American customs more than my parents. What a barbaric thing we do to our children.

[–] southsamurai 10 points 1 year ago (1 children)

About the same as I feel about rage bait titles

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago

I'm actually kind of annoyed by rage bait titles.

I like my penis though.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 year ago

Very unhappy and violated. I don't have a lot of sensitivity left (except in one area they missed) because they took too much foreskin. It makes me last longer but I can't help but wonder what I'm missing.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 year ago

Do we have to use such charged language? I was circumcised for a genuine medical procedure, nothing to do with hygiene, religion, or trends, so I’m very glad my parents had that done. Not so glad it had to happen in the first place, but very happy with the end result.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

I'm not actively mad about it but I agree it shouldn't have been done and shouldn't be normalized.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 year ago

TL;DR: Don't care

Was a baby when it was done so don't remember any of it. Been this way my whole life so have nothing to compare it to. Never bothered me, never was a topic of conversation, and nobody ever cared...probably because it is extremely common where I live.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 year ago

You've presented quite the leading question but I'll answer for myself.

I was raised Muslim (now I'm atheist) so naturally, I was circumcised. It was done because that's the rite of passage. Am I angry that it was done without my consent? Yes. Could my life have been better with a foreskin? I have no idea. How is my life now? I have many things to complain about, and none are related to my circumcision.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago

In my opinion in 100 years it will be viewed as genital mutilation as it's done to children without consent for basically no reason at all. But by then it will be purely an elective surgery adults get so they feel their dick looks prettier, so whatever.

Pretty far from the biggest problem of our age. Maybe don't stress about it.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago

Pretty displeased but if I could change one thing about society it wouldn't be male circumcision.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago (3 children)

Pretty good. I like my dick. My wife likes my dick. I never had a complaint about my dick before I met my wife. If I'm missing anything by being circumcised I can't imagine what it might be. I don't really think I'd like my dick to be any more sensitive than it is. It was done to most of us in the States back in the 70s. I have a friend who had to have it done in his 30s and he said it was fucking awful. I'll take what I have.

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[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago

I'm very angery I was sexually assaulted. I want my body back

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago

I’m not particularly bothered by it.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago

Fine with me. No clue why they did it and don't care.

Granted, I'm not exactly someone who cares for having a penis at all so...

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

I guess only men can answer but fuck it.

Trans women who want to get rid of their penis get shafted (pun intended) by circumcision as it reduces the amount of material for GRS.

That plus those who want to keep it have to deal with the same impacts as other penis owners. Perhaps even more so, as lack of T and atrophy are not assisted by the loss of the protective layer.

Most people don't really have a string opinion though, since you don't often find someone who experienced a sex life with a penis in both configurations.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago

Pretty good. Glad that I don’t have a foreskin. No offence to people who do, but it freaks me out. Any time I watch porn and it features a penis that clearly shows foreskin I get weirded out and have to find another video.

(Don’t know if that’s something uncircumcised people can relate to going the other way around?)

Way back when I lost my virginity, the girl I was dating was like “oh nice, my last boyfriend wasn’t circumcised and he didn’t like to clean himself very well”. Made me feel good in that very nervous moment.

I had this done to me when I was 7 years old, due to some medical issues I’d had in my really young years of life. I didn’t think much of it then, just like being kinda excited about being a hospital patient. I was given a very generic/non-branded action figure as a surprise afterwards, which I named after the surgeon, who had been super nice to me. And I got some time off school.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Wow what a loaded question. If I had my preference I would have remained uncut but I don't blame my parents for following social/medical standards. Being cut hasn't been a problem.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago (2 children)

If you're young and it was done, it was for specific reasons (not all of which are valid).

But if you're older, say around 40+, it was done because that's what was done.

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[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago

I don't really mind.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago

My penis is not mutilated, thank you very much.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago

Not good. Restoring is such a slow frustrating process

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago

I feel much better about it than I would've if I needed to have it done for medical reasons as an adult like my grandfather did.

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